I'm waiting for an appointment to have my youngest DD (8) assessed for ADHD/ODD/whatever the psychologist finds. It's likely to be a couple of months away. In the meantime I have this emotional, confrontational, scatty child to deal with and no clear idea how.
Sometimes i can reason with her, and five minutes later I'll find myself facing a screaming, belligerent creature. Five minutes after that she's all sunshine and cuddles. She's very forgetful, but when presented with evidence that she's misremembered a fact or misplaced something herself, she flies into full denial mode, which usually involves screaming at anyone who disagrees with her. She goes out of her way to pick fights with her sisters. If they do anything to her she holds grudges like no one else I've met. Her room is a perpetual disaster zone. Activities go unfinished, board games end up strewn over her floor without being played, things get lost and broken. Anything challenging or requiring focussed attention leads to either a frustrated tantrum or her just walking away from it. If I try to take her anywhere she spends the time popping up and down like a jack in the box. Getting her to sleep usually involves two hours of repeatedly sending her back to bed.
She's very bright and finding schoolwork intuitive and easy so far. She turns on the charm for her teacher, who thinks she's cute, so as far as her teacher is concerned my DD doesn't have any problems at all. The only sign the teacher will acknowledge is that she never shuts up and has to articulate every single thought she has.
When she's home we live in a war zone. Normal parenting doesn't seem to work with her. I'm on my own with the children and feeling close to the end of my tether with her. The other children are getting very short with her because she's completely unreasonable for so much of the time and making their lives difficult.
I don't know how to manage her. Someone help, please!
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thelastwingedthing · 03/10/2016 11:55
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