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Has anyone managed to move child from MS secondary to SS secondary?

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YourHandInMyHand Mon 03-Oct-16 09:07:34

(Posted in sen then saw advice to try here for more traffic)

DS has asd, and after I picked his secondary school he was also given additional diagnosis of adhd and anxiety too. (Also has bowel issues and sensory issues including hyperacusis).

If I had know when I chose I'd probably have swayed more towards the SS options available. I felt I should give him a shot at MS as he did ms primary.

I now feel I've made a HUGE mistake. It's breaking my heart how much he's struggling, and I feel I've let him down. I wonder if I picked MS as that's what I wanted rather than what is the best fit for him. sad I'm having similar feelings with things like recreational clubs and even family outings. The older he gets the more the gap with peers is widening and his struggles are more and more apparent.

I'm kicking myself as when I chose his secondary I could have taken my pick on his EHCP really, whereas now if I were to try and get him into a SS I would have such a battle on my hands! I know other local families who have had dc at home for a year or more while they battle.

I just don't know what to do or where to start for advice, but I can't keep sending him off to struggle everyday. sad

Ineedmorepatience Mon 03-Oct-16 14:06:06

What do his school think? If they agree with you it could be easier!

Is there more support that could be put in place in the meantime? The first term of secondary is very tough even without SEND and is way tougher with!

Dont feel guilty we all do what we think is right, we are human and make mistakes! The good thing is that you are not sitting back!

Good luck flowers

zzzzz Mon 03-Oct-16 16:02:00

I agree what do school say?

Do you have a destination SS in mind?

Have you talked to them?

What do the LA say the process is?

What does dc think?

If everyone agrees it will probably happen quite painlessly.

We all do what we think is best. Be honest and direct with you reasons.

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