I am really worried about my 6 year old. He has no diagnosis of any kind, but his behaviours are really worrying me.
He has set routines for bed, has to have a book under his pillow, has to rearrange his belongings on the shelf, and must have a teddy.
He makes a grunting noise, often, without any regular pattern but appears to be doing this involuntarily.
He gets upset so easily. He is some what of a perfectionist and if he can't do something first time he throws a paddy, often walks out of the door and up the road.
He is a very talented little footballer. At times he adjusts his shin pads after every kick of the ball. Today he looked at his hands every couple of seconds. It was quite distressing to watch, other parents commented on it, and it really took him away from the game.
School have commented that he makes little noises, often humming but when asked about it 'snaps out of it' as if he didn't know he was doing it.
Is it worth a trip to the GP. He's such an anxious little boy. Won't stay upstairs or downstairs alone, panics if he thinks someone hasn't got a seat belt on in the car, etc.
I feel like I'm walking on egg shells to make him follow my instructions. If he's upset in the morning he won't let me do his hair, etc and it becomes such a battle. He won't wear a jumper, or a coat and has real issues with his socks.
Grunting/throat clearing/humming etc could be tics. Read about ticdisorder. It's very common in children and often disappears as they grow. If it persists you can talk to your GP who could offer CBT to help him control it.
The other things you describe sound more like OCD/sensory disorder type difficulties.
I agree with getting a referral. Do you think your GP would be open to seeing you without him first? You may need to really hammer home how his rituals are causing concern to get referred on, but it can be tricky to discuss with DS1 there. My GP has been happy to do this (though my son already has a diagnosis so it's easier to get them to appreciate the delicate handling needed).