Hi,
I was wondering if anyone has any experience of any of the following issues that my step daughter is exhibiting;
- Bullying other children - physically hitting people a pretending it is an accident eg swinging a pencil case so it hits a particular person on the head, denying it and claiming it's an accident
- Sexualised language- asking boys to have sex with her, asking how to 'do it', stating that "if you swallow you can't get pregnant"
- Persistently punching people- it appears to be an impulsive behaviour, when asked why she says she wanted to or she doesn't know
- Repetitively asks the same question
- Asks adults in school for hugs
- Exposes herself or says things like "I'll rip my knickers off if I don't get..."
- Inappropriately touching people- including learning assistants (she tried to bite ones boob last week)
The list is actually much longer than this.
The background is that her mum died when sd was 1, lived with grandparents and father until age 3, grandparents only til age 7, moved in with me, my daughter (15) and dad age 7. Behaviour has been an issue forever not just since school or move to our home. Camhs involved and we are waiting for an Ados assessment for asd, possible adhd, salt referral, ot referral. Triage appt with camhs March 2015, next appt June 2016, just had classroom obs in Aug (in Scotland). We have no timeframe whatsoever for any of the above and yet the behaviour is alarming to say the least. Partner and I to start parenting course next week. This is affecting my daughter to the point that she will do practically anything to keep away from sd. She has developed stress related health problems. I am not coping and quite frankly feel at the end of the line with what I can do. I have spent hours and hours researching these potential conditions, spent a lot of money on books to help her and to help me understand more.
What else can I do? Has anyone else experienced any of these issues? Is there light at the end of the tunnel?
I hate myself for thinking this, but have I just got myself and my daughter into a dreadful situation that we need to get out of?
Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.