I am enraged and it's irrational, but still enraged.
DS (6yo), dx of HFA, had a playdate today with his NT schoolfriend. She told me she spent all morning playing only what he wanted and remarked wisely "It's because he's an only child".
She must have heard this from her mother, who just has NO IDEA how much effort, time and energy my partner and I put in to encourage DS to be more flexible, think about others, play what others want to play, be polite, say hello and goodbye, share toys, etc.
I later found out that actually DS had tried to be more flexible and played what his friend wanted for a long while. I think she had been seeking some adult approval and got it, first from me (telling her how kind and patient she had been with DS) and then from her mother (who told her 'oh well done, you're very good at that, aren't you'). It enrages me that her mother is so complacent about her DD's impeccable behaviour that it doesn't even occur to her that DD might be telling a few white lies in order to be told what a good, patient girl she is.
I would like to ask her mother: does she think that DS's incessant teeth-grinding and nail-chewing, his difficulty reading facial expressions, constant anxiety, extreme repetition, hand-flapping, fear of cereals, extreme word phobias, etc. etc. are down to his being an only child?
AIBU? Yes, probably. But aaaaargh.
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