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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

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Feeling bit feeble, sat with DS at the child pyschologist's today.........

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Bugsy2 · 23/01/2007 20:04

Big sigh. I always feel a bit guilty coming on here, as I have no special needs diagnosis - but many of you know I have struggled & worried about DS over the years.
Anyway, we are finally getting somewhere & after my appointment with the pyschologist, filling out lots of assessment forms, I went with DS today.
I only just controlled my tears. It was heart-breaking to listen to him talk about all his worries and the difficulties he has with so many things at school.
I ached inside to listen to him.
Anyway, not really sure what I'm saying but just felt the need to unload here.

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mummy2aaron · 23/01/2007 20:12

First off don't feel guilty for coming on here - lots of children have a diffculties but no specific dx. Probably today's appointment brought it all to a head, and being the good Mum you are you don't want to your child to suffer or be unhappy. That's why you feel so sad. Was the psychologist able to offer any help or support?

Bugsy2 · 23/01/2007 20:16

Thanks M2A. The psychologist is going to go through all the forms I filled in & that the school completed and her assessment from today & I'm going back to see her in 10 days.

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mummy2aaron · 23/01/2007 20:23

That's good then things are moving. It's a hell of a fight for some help but it will be worth if it it helps ds with his problems.

sis · 23/01/2007 20:33

Hi Bugsy, I am not aware of your ds's background and am sorry he has had problems. Ds is high functioning autistic and I posted about the symptoms of his anxieties a few months back and was so impressed with the support I received on the SN board. As M2A says, the feelings you describe are totally understandable and I am sure that all parents of SN children are constantly struggling to overcome similar feelings.

Bugsy2 · 23/01/2007 20:45

Thank you both. I've worried about DS for years. That funny gut feeling when you know all is not quite right. I've noticed it even more as DD (who is 2 years younger) has got older.
Just felt so sad for him today.

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mummy2aaron · 23/01/2007 21:54

I know just what you mean about a gut feeling, when problems were first noticed with ds2 I went straight home and told dh that he was autistic - at that stage autism hadn't been mentioned but I knew.

NewMoonOnMonday · 23/01/2007 22:09

Aww Bugsy. I don't know what your history with DS is but I do sympathise. You just want you kids to happily sail through their child-hood. It must be awful to have a gut feeling that something isn't quite right. My DS was DX with autism over a year ago and although it was painful it was reassuring in some ways because someone else had verified that it wasn't just me being paranoid.

Bugsy2 · 23/01/2007 22:20

It was so painful sitting beside him, listening to his polite little voice answering all the child psychologist's questions. At one point she said "Is there anything you look forward to" and he said "no, not really".
It took so much control not to cry.

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NewMoonOnMonday · 23/01/2007 22:34

I'm not surprised you were choked. Why was he seeing the psychologist? Are you getting somewhere with a DX?

Bugsy2 · 23/01/2007 22:37

He has very high anxiety levels, struggles with peer group relationships, very low concentration levels, emotionally immature to mention a few things.
He is also a sweet, affectionate little soul and today nearly broke my heart.

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NewMoonOnMonday · 23/01/2007 22:42

How old is he Bugsy?

Bugsy2 · 23/01/2007 22:43

He's seven

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NewMoonOnMonday · 23/01/2007 22:50

Aww bless him. I know my DS can drive me to the edge, but at other times he's like a little baby. It must have been heartbreaking hearing him say he's got nothing to look forward to.

D'you have a gut feeling about the type of SN's that he might have? I mean do you think he fits into ASD or something else?

Troutpout · 23/01/2007 22:57

Aww Bugsy ...bet that was hard
here have a hug (and i don't even do those)

hopefully he'll get some help though now? you are doing the right thing by your boy

Bugsy2 · 23/01/2007 23:02

Thank you both. Years ago, when he was 3.5 dyspraxia, aspergers were thrown up in the air but at the time he was considered to young to diagnose.
I've reserached both of those & he does display some characteristics of both. So hard to know though & I try not to look too much because I end up going totally neurotic.

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NewMoonOnMonday · 23/01/2007 23:07

Oh yes, I know. Too much research and you could drive yourself mad. I did the same with my DS.

Hope you're feeling better now Bugsy. I hardly ever come on to MN anymore, but always feel better after posting and getting a few virtual hugs - hope you do too

Bugsy2 · 23/01/2007 23:09

Thank you NMoM (top name, great song!). No one else to talk to it about. Ex-H is loathe to accept that something might be wrong, so won't discuss it at all.
So do feel better for the support & wise words.

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NewMoonOnMonday · 23/01/2007 23:27

Hmm - DS's dad is good really, but won't accept that he has SN even with a DX. He just acts like it's all a big cock up and one day we'll sit around laughing about how we used to think DS was autistic - hmm, I don't think so!

Glad you've lightened the load Bugsy

tigermoth · 23/01/2007 23:42

Oh bugsy it must have been such a tough day. Your description of your son really moved me so I wanted to post something.

I hope this meeting leads to more enlightenment about your son - he sounds such a love.

Bugsy2 · 24/01/2007 09:32

Thank you Tigermoth - I think I'd gone to bed by the time you posted. Both children were so excited about the snow this morning, that I feel a bit more cheery today. At least I am getting help - that is the most important thing.

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Bugsy2 · 24/01/2007 10:13

Thanks Batters.

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coppertop · 24/01/2007 11:04

Don't feel guilty about coming on to the SN board. It's here for you to use.

I remember your posts about your ds1 and your concerns. I'm glad it's finally all being thoroughly investigated. So sorry though that you've had to go through it all IYSWIM. Keep posting on SN if it helps in any way. xxx

Bugsy2 · 24/01/2007 11:44

Thank you Coppertop. Given that you have suggested I can ask. What do you think the Pyschologist is likely to say when she sees me in 10 days. Will she give me a diagnosis? Any idea what I could or should expect?

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coppertop · 24/01/2007 13:44

I think a Child Psych can make a dx but I'm not 100% sure. Ds2 saw a CP as part of his assessment but he was a lot younger than your ds so that's probably not much help. Hopefully someone on here will know.

Even if she can't give you a dx I would ask which people might be able to help your ds with his areas of difficulty, eg perhaps an OT to offer advice about motor skills issues, SALT to advise about any social skills difficulties etc. Hopefully she will be able to make referrals etc. Ds2's CP advises the pre-school staff about strategies they can try with him but I think this stops when he goes on to school.

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