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Reception asd ds - social interaction

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amunt Tue 24-May-16 22:37:17

Ds has never shown the slightest interest in his peers until the last few weeks. He is suddenly very motivated and excited about interacting with them, but (predictably) very clumsy and not very good at it. He's getting help with the basics, but there's a lot to learn. Some children are kind and helpful and others are wary and don't want to know - he might suddenly approach them and ask leftfield questions. I was wondering if there was any mileage in the teacher (or even) me having a chat with the children (without ds) to explain, not the autism, but that he hasn't been able to play with children until now and that his behaviour will seem strange because he still doesn't know what to do.

I don't know if this is good idea or wildly unrealistic. They seem basically pretty nice kids, but a bit bewildered as to his behaviour.

Any thoughts?

claw12 Wed 25-May-16 07:14:19

I think you will always get the nice, helpful kids, the bewilder ones and the not so nice helpful kids regardless of any chats.

OneInEight Wed 25-May-16 07:46:55

Ds1 was older when they did this (juniors) and it was helpful. There were two children with an ASC in his class and it was handled by talking about autism in general and what differences it might make - good as well as bad without mentioning either ds1 or the other child by name. Without being a magic solution - it is high expectations on even NT five year olds to adapt their behaviour - even a little more understanding that some children may not like to be touched or may like talking about minecraft ALL the time might be beneficial so I would ask the teacher if she could discuss it in an age appropriate manner.

zzzzz Wed 25-May-16 08:37:56

I wouldn't do more than the usual "be kind" type of chats with any child at that age. You may be massively over estimating what a nt reception child is capable of.
What helped my son enormously was the teacher giving everyone calm advice on "how we make friends and ask to play". They role played and the entire school reception class took it to heart and it just became how you did things there grin

So, if you want to make friends with someone you say "my names XXXX, what's your name?"

If you know them you say "hello XXXX"

If you want to play you say "hello XXXX can I play?"
The kind answer is "of course you can" because "joining people in" is very kind.
Sometimes people say you can't play, but that isn't the kind thing.

When we go home we say goodbye to people we know, and we thank the people who looked after us.

Sounds crazy, but a good teacher folds this into their day and it is extremely helpful to the socially disadvantaged (and actually for everyone).

amunt Wed 25-May-16 09:36:28

Thanks everyone. On reflection, zzzz, you're probably right that reception is too young. Maybe something for juniors as OneInEight 's case. The school and staff are pretty good, but I really like the idea of being explicit with 'this is what you do' role plays. I'll have to think how to suggest it without too much toe treading.

zzzzz Wed 25-May-16 10:23:24

Our SALT suggested it (and wording), that and practicing the questions grown ups are most likely to ask a small child REALLY helped (eg What's your name? What school do you go to? How old are you? Do you have any brothers or sisters? Etc etc)

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