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Making different noises for yes and no

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Laurajay84 Tue 10-May-16 10:35:35

My DS is just about to turn three, has ASD and is non-verbal. Apart from leading us to things he wanted, he had very little non-verbal communication with us - obviously, something which contributed to him being diagnosed.

Previously if we asked him if he wanted something or asked a question he would just look blankly and not respond. Within the last week he has recently started answering yes or no to questions with two different sounds, an agreeing sound for yes and a funny little cough for no. Whilst he's doing this, he looks us right in the eye like he is finally connecting and communicating grin

Has anyone else experienced this with their child? We're really positive about this new development and hope that it's a pre-speech thing smile. Is there anything we can do to develop this further? Should we be responding to the noises or should we really be encouraging him to actually say yes and no?

WellTidy Tue 10-May-16 10:55:34

Well done to your DS, Thats great. I have a just turned 4yo Ds2 who was non verbal at 3. He developed his own version of yes which was 'ah dee' in response to questions such as 'do you want a drink' or 'do you want cereal'. If he did want it, he would say ah Dee, if he didn't, he would scream. We were delighted actually! It meant that we knew what he wanted when whatever he wanted was out of reach.

We accepted it to start with, as we wanted him to continue. But gradually, as other letter sounds have come, we have said, when he says ah Dee, 'can you say yes'? And he does now say 'yuh'. He has also got 'no' down pat.

zzzzz Tue 10-May-16 11:43:14

grin yes mine said no for both but different tones grin

AntiquityOverShares Tue 10-May-16 12:14:30

We just kept responding to any communication modelling the right words when suitable but early on ds didn't like to hear too much speech it made him scream so it just depended. Also we figured him not getting demoralised or shutting down about communication was more important than forming words.

Don't forget to take into consideration any bodily/noise communication too. Looking back on videos of Ds he was communicating via banging long before we noticed his communication via banging.

Just turning 3 was the moment we noticed ds understood more. He was playing on a slide before his final diagnosis appointment and we told him last time and he folded himself in half at the top of the slide and jammed his legs apart so he couldn't come down!

PolterGoose Tue 10-May-16 12:48:05

How fantastic that he's found a way to express his needs smile

My ds learned a spoken 'yes' long before 'no' and would gesture 'no' rather than say it.

Frusso Tue 10-May-16 16:26:29

Fantastic! I'd take it and run with it. At this early stage I'd take what he offered rather than force a word.
He makes agreeable noise, I'd repeat "yes" to both confirm I'd understood, and clarify what word he has attempted to say. Same with the cough, I'd repeat "no", to reinforce what he's aiming for.

Cakescakescakes Sat 14-May-16 23:56:59

We had this in a similar way. I just went along with it to boost his confidence about being understood, but I also modelled the 'correct' language back to him so he was hearing the accurate word sounds.

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