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2boysnamedR Thu 05-May-16 23:03:08

I have had so much going on in the last five months I had to take some time off the board.

Things are ok now. My tribunal boy is now the top of his class in all aspects of school confused younger boy is starting reception in a severe / profound needs school.

I got a bit to vocal IRL and it's caused some very scary backlash.

Anyway I will dive back in with my crap advise here. I think my storm
Has passed.

Ineedmorepatience Fri 06-May-16 09:51:10

Hi 2boys its nice to see you and great news that your stormhas passed. Ours has too for now, home ed is working brilliantly for us. Not much sit down academic stuff going on but plenty of real life learning smile

WellTidy Fri 06-May-16 11:05:46

Hello again and welcome back.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Fri 06-May-16 15:51:21

<unbattens the hatches to wave hello>

Welcome back. So pleased DS2 wasn't sent to m/s. smile

I got a bit to vocal IRL and it's caused some very scary backlash.
I'm thinking of One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest now - did they threaten to lobotomise you? Or maybe you were introduced to Room 101 to correct your thinking?

zzzzz Fri 06-May-16 16:17:35

bit stormy here but I have calmer seas in my sights. Nice to see you back.

dies of curiosity to know just how bad you is

2boysnamedR Fri 06-May-16 20:29:04

Hhmmmm... Let's say SS bad then mental health team bad. Threats to section me bad... Then proving I'm not a danger to myself or kids over some flippant comment. Luckily I have a job that disproves all that.

I have had my eyes opened a lot. Unless I think there is a dire need to get services I'm not asking again for any input. I literally have have four teams working with me now. Neither am I speaking out Irl. My mental health and my own kids come before trying to change the system, which I guess was what it was all for

zzzzz Sat 07-May-16 09:54:09

brew. Sounds absolutely horrid. Poor you. I'm constantly amazed at the stress ADDED by professionals. angry

2boysnamedR Sat 07-May-16 11:16:47

I asked for respite care but was told that ds ( non verbal profound to me) might improve and he's to young. They don't know his needs (accepted into profound needs school). Went to a consultation on respite in my county. Said I would need to kill myself before I got a break. Children SS still won't discharge us despite saying we don't meet criteria. That is now blocking our short break respite grant. Also they sent in the mental health Sw who says she hasn't a clue why I was reffered

Youarenotkiddingme Sat 07-May-16 13:15:36

Welcome back 2boys. Sorry to hear things have been so dire for you. flowers

lowcrabdiet Sat 07-May-16 22:10:44

flowers for you 2boys

misdee Sat 07-May-16 22:51:45

Welcome back.

ouryve Sun 08-May-16 21:04:16

Oh, I remember you mentioning all that SS crap. Sorry it took a turn for the ugly sad

2boysnamedR Sun 08-May-16 21:15:17

Well I feel utterly stupid for approaching them for help. Hindsight and all that. I did have portage and a friend who fosters telling me not to do it. Should have listened

MeirAya Tue 10-May-16 06:21:10

It's abuse. Dressed up as safeguarding. And you have nothing to be ashamed of- the services are paid to help, and don't. How could anyone be expected to believe that this was likely- it sounds so unbelievable.

Conspiracy/paranoia makes sense in SEN world (which your Portage & fostering friends are honorary members of) but those not in the systems would think we're all nuts

MeirAya Tue 10-May-16 06:22:30

Is it revenge for the tribunal?
(And/or LGO)

zzzzz Tue 10-May-16 08:21:49

No they don't think we're nuts, they think we make it up sad

2boysnamedR Tue 10-May-16 15:54:09

Not sure if it's revenge - it's to shut me up and keep me in my place stopping taking out.

I'm still being a PITA for my LA. I put a formal complaint in as my sons draft was two months late. Head of SEN replied in ten minutes. I have a hotline to hell with him wink

He's coming to a TAF next week where SS will be there, maybe discussing my mental health. I will calmly state that calling in a mental health SW who works with adults with long term serious mental health issues might be why they have no funding? Also that she told DH she could section me and that really she should not have said that. MH SW told me that even she can't say that to people, neither can she section people against their will.

People assuming I'm stupid really gets to me. Like I would know it's all a croc.

Youarenotkiddingme Tue 10-May-16 18:16:15

Ive come to the conclusion they are putting funds into adult MH because they are determined to send us all a bit do lally re our DCs Sen!

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