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As I expected my DS (4) was diagnosed today with ASD, poor eye contact, tolerates other children but not that interested in them/adults (much better with trusted adults) and delayed and disordered language. Can't disagree with feedback and cognitively they think he is fine, especially when learning visually. I am relieved process is over and hopefully he will get the support he needs in MS school. Although I expected diagnosis and know he is lucky to get his diagnosis young, feel exhausted and sad. If anyone has felt like this and has any experiences of DC making good/better progress than you expected I would love to hear them. It's been 7 months of constantly hearing what he can't do am wondering if I will ever hear something positive.
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Your experience is very similar to ours a year ago. I also got so down because of the never ending negative reports pointing out his glaring weaknesses (as they had to, I suppose), but no serious attempt made to tackle them. As everyone will tell you, the sadness will pass - take it a day at a time. And as Polter mentions, don't compare; he will progress and you will love it.