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ASD - does this sound like stimming?

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Blossom4538 Sun 17-Apr-16 07:19:11

Hi all,
There are still question marks over whether our little girl is ASD. She has various struggles.

I'm just wondering if these are stims? I imagine stims such as hand flapping, spinning, staring at lights etc - however my little sometimes does things during meltdowns or busy social situations, which I wonder are they stims?
She has had meltdowns all day today. Sometimes she will repeatedly bang the kitchen door open and closed, same with our baby gate. She also during a tantrum switched our light switch on and off. My H thinks she's just doing this during a meltdown to wind us up?! She does like to wind us up at times and get a reaction.

At my sister's house, which is busy and her behaviours do come out, she will open and close her kitchen bin lid or play with door handle. She's almost 5.

...or is stimming more prevalent when bored and needing additional stimulation?
When I looked up stimming on google a minute ago, the Wikipedia page also said feeling soft fabrics is a common stim. My little one loves soft textures (she poss has sensory issues).
What stims do your little ones have?

Happygoluckyy Sun 17-Apr-16 08:27:45

Id say that's more repetitive behaviour rather than stimming (not 100% sure) when my lg is somewhere she's uncomfortable with she tends to sit at the door or play with the handle i do believe this is because she know's the door is how she can leave. If she can open the door she's off and will run away. (She's 3)

My lg's stimming is spinning (she calls this her dancing) she also has slight hand movements.

Stimming to my knowledge is self simulating behaviour it can be highly noticeable or very slight and could easily be missed.

Frusso Sun 17-Apr-16 08:41:22

The door thing. Oh yes, that's one of Dds. It's carried over the years depending on what feed back she's after.
My Dds have never done the hand flapping, but that what everyone recognises as a stim.

Over the years my 2 have worked through stroking the sofa/materials those spiky doormats (that fall apart with little bristles), light switches, swinging in doors, rocking chairs back to tipping point, kicking at doors, having their feet squished, sitting upside down on the sofa (head where feet should be) spinning round in circles. And chewing things.

The thing Ive noticed with stimming is that it changes, if the need is being met through something else the stim can stop or change, or if it doesn't give the feedback needed it develops and adapts so that it does. When dd2 was about 5 we had a particular door that never shut properly, and would lie on the floor kicking it. Or rather pushing against it to get that push back.it was that push back that she was seeking. So now we do exercises where I effectively take the place of the door, and she will sit and I will push against her feet. I've not explained that well. But what I'm trying to say is by the light switches, doors and baby gate actions you daughter is after certain feedback, and if you can find something that replicates the same feedback you can start to introduce a sensory diet where you give her little bits of what she needs throughout the day so she doesn't seek it out as much.
Get a referral to an occupational Therapist, they can help you devise a sensory diet,

It's not a boredom thing, stimming is not limited to stress situations and can also be done when they are happy. Dd1 vocally stims, and it took me a while to recognise it for what it was, she does thing singing/chatting/monologue thing, high pitch and not quite under her breath. So I just hear this noise it used to drive me batty until it was pointed out it was a stim but she not only does it when she's anxious, but when she's excited and happy too.

Frusso Sun 17-Apr-16 08:44:08

*changed over the years, not carried over them.
she's nearly 8 btw

lottielou7 Sun 17-Apr-16 08:44:33

Stimming isn't really exclusively associated with ASD. My child with dyspraxia and sensory processing difficulties stims much more than her older sister who has severe autism.

ASD is diagnosed using the triad of impairments. Although a lot of autie kids do stim, it isn't actually part of the diagnostic process.

mummytime Sun 17-Apr-16 09:53:15

I think everyone stims. I came to this conclusion after working out what my DD does after she was diagnosed. She does this odd bringing her forefingers together, like she is precision aiming.
But everyone tends to do "something" when they are nervous: curl their hair, bite their lip, pace, tap, clear their throat etc. People with ASD just do it more because they tend to be more anxious, and the world makes less sense.

What I would really suggest is you investigate the difference between Meltdowns and Tantrums as they are different and need to be treated differently.
And yes everyone can have a meltdown; just think of the five mat stressful things that could happen to you, and imagine them all happening at once. Eg. The baby vomiting uncontrollably, the 3 year old screaming, a phone call to say DH is in hospital, followed by the car not starting, and then your boss phones to say you are going to be disciplined at work.

Blossom4538 Sun 17-Apr-16 10:10:19

Thanks everyone, v helpful. My little one has severe anxiety, selective mutism, possible sensory problems and will be assessed for ASD.

PolterGoose Sun 17-Apr-16 10:27:15

Good blog post on stimming

PolterGoose Sun 17-Apr-16 10:28:06

Might be helpful.

2flyforwifi2 Sun 17-Apr-16 10:34:10

My 12yo ds has asd. When he gets nervous/excited/over stinulated he rocks. He also kicks the end of the rug we have over and over and swings the door back and forth. Im not sure if this is classed as stimming but he scrapes his teeth over his bottom and top lips, he often has red marks around his mouth. He also rubs his hands together, he has callouses on his knuckles from rubbing them repeatedly, which get chapped and sore sad

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