Yesterday I had something of a realisation. I was reading an article in a newspaper about ADHD and thought my son sounded like he had some of the attributes, albeit on a mild basis. I have considered this possibility a few times before e.g. at age 8 the only way he could walk was to dance, swerve, and generally giggle about as he moved in a forward direction. I asked his primary school teacher who said “no”! So I just put his general ‘energeticness’ down to being a highly active child, which he was.
Fast forward to secondary school. His main reports always comment on his being easily “distracted” and also talking in class. A friend of his made a joke to me the other day about my son not hearing instructions in class because he is always “staring into space and fiddling with his pencil case!” It is true my son finds it hard to sit still and is a terrible fidget – at home he seems to always grab hold of something and be tapping it or pulling it about, be it a tissue box or whatever is to hand.
His school work is OK, he is bright and above average, but hates to knuckle down and do any homework. He is easily bored. I have to tell him everything 10 times and he can get quite frustrated and angry at times, which I’ve put down to the early stages of “teenagedom” but now I’m wondering if this is also part of very mild ADHD, plus enjoying winding me up. I think he is also starting to get into trouble at school with these issues e.g. detentions.
He has a couple of verbal ticks that he can’t control and I gave up trying to correct them last year – when I read that these things need to be left alone. But it all is beginning to create a picture.
I’ve looked at some of the criteria and I doubt his attributes are severe enough for him to be medically diagnosed with it, perhaps just close to the cusp. He is a bit impulsive and clumsy, but in many ways mature beyond his years and socially fairly OK. He may be on the extreme end of “normal” on the spectrum if you understand my meaning. However I am concerned for its impact in the future e.g. for the school to be saying that he is distracted all the time.
I know there is a lot of special needs knowledge on this board, obviously dealing with much more severe issues. But I wonder if I could ask for advice for what to do next, if anything.
- Are there books or articles I should read to inform myself, as this will help me understand my son a little more and hopefully get ideas to help him (and me) to cope.
- Should I mention this to the school? I just get the feeling they are going to get increasingly frustrated with him otherwise.
- Should I at some point (in the future?) talk about this to my son? So that he might understand his own actions and choices more?
I feel quite isolated with my concerns, I’m a single parent. I am not sure if going to go to my GP or son’s school will help either, and don't want to make things worse. Does anybody have any suggestions here?