I hope it is ok to ask for help on this board when I do not have any sort of diagnosis for DS?
DS is 9 in Year 4. Back in Year 1 he started having really massive temper tantrums where a red mist would descend and he would be out of control. DS was referred to CAMHS by the GP when I asked for help, with an 8 month wait. By the time we saw CAMHS the phase of tantrums had calmed down somewhat and we had found by trial and error ways to keep him less stressed. They assessed him for ADHD (we were not told at any point that the assessment was for this, I didn't think then that ADHD fit) and discharged us saying no ADHD.
In the last 4 years DS goes through phases where we are managing, and then bad months where he loses his temper constantly, particularly bad when we moved house/school 18 months ago.
In the weeks running up to half term, and all over half term we are in a bad phase again. There has not been one day in the last 3 weeks where he has not lost his temper multiple times over something - often something small (that is huge to him) like trying a magic trick from a book and it went wrong. He used to hit and kick me or DH but has now started 'only' hitting himself - he punches his head which is very upsetting to watch. Also screams, swears, throws furniture, books, throws everything around his bedroom.
At school he is very good and well-behaved. He is absolutely terrified of being in trouble there, and follows all the rules all the time. He is quite clever, quiet and no bother at school. He seems to play with friends at school and always seems happy coming out at the end of each day.
There is nothing I can pin point that has changed recently, in his calmer moments he can’t tell me anything that is wrong, but we are living on a knife edge at home tiptoeing around him waiting for the next explosion. I really feel like we/he need more help with managing his behaviour, but I don’t know who to speak to or how to ask for help?
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lucyanntrevelyan · 24/02/2016 11:24
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