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Advice please School refusal to work refusal

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Lindseyepps28 · 02/02/2016 10:52

Over the last term my ds has gone from school refusal to attending but now he will refuse to do any work, he will sit in class with head on table, he is in year 5 but work had been lowered to year 1 so can do it. So far we have tried

Rewards
Visual time table
Consequences
Red, yellow and green dot on work
Letting him try normal class work
He has full 1 to 1.

We are currently awaiting OT and a link to a SS has been agreed but waiting for paperwork as draft ehc to be finalised next week.
Both me and his Lsa don't know what else we could try. Any suggestions?

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birdlover1977 · 02/02/2016 11:49

I don't really have any advice as you are already doing everything I would suggest. I just wanted to offer some support.

Is he like this at home? After a day of refusing to work at school, can you get him to complete some reading, writing, maths at home? This has worked for me in the past because my ds knows if he doesn't complete it at school he will not have as much time to play at home because he has to do the school work he has missed.
What reasons is he giving for refusing? Is something bothering him?

Best wishes

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Lindseyepps28 · 02/02/2016 12:14

Yes he refuses to do a lot at home. We are currently awaiting a dx I'm thinking along the lines of asd/pda but appointment is in June. He does not have homework apart from a project art based. On Friday the school sent him home after a meltdown and I requested work which he did do but took all weekend about a 5 hours to do 20 min of work. I might suggest sending the work home not sure if it would get done but worth a try. Thanks

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Veritat · 02/02/2016 16:02

Has the school asked an educational psychologist for advice?

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zzzzz · 02/02/2016 17:48

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rosebiggs · 02/02/2016 17:53

Is he capable of Y5 work? Does Y1 work motivate him?

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birdlover1977 · 02/02/2016 18:08

If he refuses to do work at home then sending it home will only make matters worse and more stressful for both of you, so I don't think that is the solution.

The school need to try and work out why he is refusing to work. Is the work to hard/easy? Is the environment not suitable, may-be he needs a quieter space? Is it something else?

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Lindseyepps28 · 03/02/2016 13:01

Thanks for all your responses, ep have been involved and they recommend the OT as the school have try all their suggestions. He is unable to do year 5 work, when we tried he had a meltdown due to frustration and ended up being sent home. I was seeing if anyone had been in a similar position and had any suggestions, I feel that he is attending not learning. I have had a meeting with HT and her option is that they can't douch more and are just waiting for la to set up link with SS and then hopefully a full time place will come available Sep16. Just getting frustrated as he seems to be falling further behind and I am scared it will become learnt behavior.

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birdlover1977 · 03/02/2016 13:30

Hugs for you Lindsey. It is so hard. My two ASD sons have had periods of refusing to work at school, but thankfully it has always been nipped in the bud quite quickly. I understand your fear. I have no extra suggestions. I hope you manage to resolve this quickly because, yes he will fall further behind, especially if he can't be helped at home. Best wishes

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Verbena37 · 03/02/2016 14:10

Is your DS 1:1 in class or outside classroom?
Perhaps he could be getting overwhelmed by sensory input if he's in the class and his body shuts down to cope with overstimulation of his nervous system?
Can you get him assessed privately?