DD1 (6 almost 7) has been referred for assessment. We suspect Aspergers or ADHD or both. I think it may be mild, which is why it has gone unnoticed until now, although there were always a lot of issues at home. But as she was my first I didn't fully realise what was normal and what wasn't. Plus she is a girl and I know that girls can sometimes "mask" some of the symptoms.
I don't know how long the waiting list is, but they have sent a letter confirming that they have received the referral, and I think it is sinking in now that this is real. Does that even make sense?
So what do I tell DD? So far we haven't told her anything. I know she would fret and worry so I am keen to only tell her what I have to. But she is very perceptive and she will want an explanation for the assessment appointments. Any examples of the phrasing I could use when explaining it would be good, I don't want to get it wrong.
There is also the issue of what I will be able to say in any appointment where my ex is present and there are questions being asked about that relationship. He was physically, emotionally and financially abusive, and at the end of the relationship was given a two year suspended sentence for what happened. We are on good terms now, he is a good father to DD and he has completely turned his life around. But he still refuses to accept the extent of the abuse, and does still blame me for it rather than accept the blame himself.
I want to and need to be honest with the HCPs but the fact is, I am not comfortable dragging that up in front of him. Is it likely they will ask for us to speak to them separately? If I request that, can I do it discreetly, so he doesn't know it was me that asked and just thinks its normal procedure?
I really have no idea of what is involved in the assessment process, and I am keen to hear others' experiences.
Sorry, I am asking a lot. My head is full of questions. :o
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LizKeen · 10/12/2015 12:13
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