Hi all, was a regular on this board many moons ago and have NC, just in case my username isn't familiar...
DS7 ASD & ADD dx at nearly 4. We are a relatively good MS school in terms of support and although first two years were hard for ds (huge anxiety issues) things settled in the later half of YR2. This was the result of a very good CT who just got him.
Great start to YR3, but me and his CT are locking horns. She is a woman of few words and I like to know what's going on for ds in school,which culminated with me responding to her in a very direct, no nonsense way that she has taken offence too. Here is what happened and would appreciate opinions on whether I was in the wrong in what I wrote... I won't be offended, we all get it wrong sometimes!
DS has settled well into YR3, great classroom layout (very important for his sensory issues) TA from YR2 has gone up with him and we took the decision to medicate (after much soul searching) which has helped enormously with his concentration levels and reduction in impulses. Very low dose. Because of this he has moved into the top group for maths and his CT said she wanted to try him in the top group for literacy. Last week ds started telling me he was worried and sad and that the staff were getting cross with him. I mentioned this in his book, CT responded by saying there wasn't an issue! Couple of days ago DS mentioned it again and said the TA and CT were glaring at him, and he felt very sad and unhappy. Mentioned this again in his book, asking two questions... How have we supported his transition into the new group and... Are the other CT & TA aware of his difficulties.
This was the response in his book from CT... "I've told him that he will move back into the other group from tomorrow"!
I wrote back... "With all due respect, that response to the situation is not acceptable, if ds is academically able to be in the higher group then we should be supporting this transition and fully briefly Teaching staff rather than just moving him back down. Furthermore I put two questions to you yesterday and I would have appreciated a response to them by return."
I've been in tonight and TBF we've had a long discussion. The main points were that CT didn't appreciate my response and basically I'm to give her more trust to do her job (which is never going to happen BTW). We discussed much much more, but I've come away thinking I'm being told I'm interfering too much.
So, if you've got this far... was her response adequate and am I really interfering and expecting too much?
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Am I asking for too much?
Bookeatingboy · 18/11/2015 17:43
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