OK, not really sure where to start but I'm feeling a bit lost and confused so am hoping for some advice. I am a SAHM with a 4 year old DS who has recently started nursery. I've always known my son is a bit of a handful, he's lovely and friendly but very full on and honestly during the last year I have really struggled with him. My DH and I have always wondered if it was our parenting style or whether he is just naturally very boisterous however I have always had a few niggles that there is something a little more going on (autism) but dismissed it as his speech/communication/eye contact etc has always been really good. Most people actually comment about how advanced his talking is.
Anyway he started nursery in Sept (attached to the school I'm hoping he will go to) and absolutely loves it, his teachers have not really told me of any issues up until Monday when they brought me in for a chat, saying he was very disruptive in class, mainly not listening but also being too full on with the other children. They said it was all done with the best of intentions but that he would decide he was going to play with someone in particular and they would have to do what he wanted, often not by telling them but just dragging them over to play. I was a little taken aback, not having been told there were any issues before and TBH I didn't really ask any questions/find out what they really wanted. So I went in today for a more in depth meeting and basically they told me they feel he should be observed to start the ball rolling towards a diagnosis for autism.
I was surprised but not shocked, I have a few times looked at the signs and always discounted it as so many of them did not seem to be like my son at all (although obviously having looked into it a few times there are signs pointing towards this).
Anyway, I called my DH and he is really concerned that the school may be trying to 'label' him and going forward this is something that may affect him long-term. My feeling is that I cant see why they would want to do this if they didn't think he needed help. Right I'll stop waffling, basically I'm wondering if there are any downsides to starting to go through the process? And is anyone else as surprised as me that they would actually be using the word autism so early before a diagnosis?
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