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How did your kids manage in school with mild Aspergers/Autism?

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Mrbrowncanmoo Tue 03-Nov-15 10:16:54

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StarfrightMcFangsie Tue 03-Nov-15 12:30:07


Mine is 8 now and has had several placements. It really doesn't seem to be about the child tbh, but the willingness of the placement to see issues, invest in solutions and communicate well with parents.

WoodHeaven Tue 03-Nov-15 12:39:48

I found some teachers really on the ball and able to noticed lots if details like the ones you are describing.
And others who are implement oblivious and will make you feel that you are just overreacting - unless you have a clear diagnosis they can't deny.

I found my small primary unable to really be able to support dc2, as in there is no way they would have done anything special to help with social issues etc because basically, in the classroom he was the quiet, shy child. And on the playground the boy who plays football with the others.
That didn't stop him from sort of enjoying school and progressing. It's more that all the work the social rules, language etc has been done at home with no input from them.

Mrbrowncanmoo Tue 03-Nov-15 13:22:10

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anya1985 Tue 03-Nov-15 14:26:25

My son is exactly the same transitions well, no meltdowns and is very articulate around us and family friends etc. His issues became apparent in the school setting like not being able to socially interact well and stuff though he is doing very well academically he is in mainstream reception. His school have really helped now in helping interact by doing lots of small group work and stuff. I was also very shocked to see how he was in the assessments he was so different, things that he would do easily at home etc were so different in the assessments. I guess that's just it, which I found hard to accept and kept saying but I don't see these behaviours, is kids with AS behave differently in different settings especially new settings they are not use to!

Hopefully with the right support at school our kids will flourish!

Ineedmorepatience Tue 03-Nov-15 16:13:10

I have to say I dont believe there is such a thing as mild Asd/aspergers! There is nothing mild about the struggle to cope with understanding what is going on around you and feeling constantly overwhelmed by sensory overload!

Not having a dig but Dd3 was always thought of as having "mild" difficulties by school staff when actually she was crumbling and falling apart due to her needs not being met!

For us school has been nothing but hard work and trauma and we are currently home edding while we take a break from it!

PolterGoose Tue 03-Nov-15 18:36:28

Totally agree with Ineed, Aspergers and autism are not mild conditions, and to get a diagnosis there needs to be significant difficulties, 'passing for normal' is more often masking and it takes an extraordinary amount of personal resources to sustain, this is possibly the hardest thing in terms of getting the right support. Nobody sees what's under the surface.

We had a pretty bloody awful time with primary, and my ds was violent and melting down at school, secondary has so far been pretty fab.

SauvignonBlanche Tue 03-Nov-15 18:45:20

I shuddered driving past DS' old primary school whilst taking a shortcut today, it brought back some bad memories. He was labled as naughty for quiet a while before he was diagnosed the age of 9.

He was statemented from Yr 1 and wouldn't have coped without the extra support.

High school was great, he arrived with a diagnosis and they had a specialist resource base for ASD. University seems to be going well so far but it's early days.

QueenStreaky Tue 03-Nov-15 21:59:58

We tried two primary schools for my ds and both were dire. There was a reluctance to engage with us as parents, to listen to our observations and understanding of ds and his difficulties, so he got no specific support for any of it.

In fact, both schools scuppered applications for statutory assessment (LA believed their claims that ds was 'fine', despite frequent conversations with me to the contrary), and his second school lied to CAMHS when we asked for ADHD assessment (he later got his dx at first meeting with a private consultant who by-passed the school.

Tbh, ds didn't start to make progress until we deregistered him to home educate. The two primary schools he attended (one 'outstanding', the other with considerable autism experience and well respected) caused an enormous amount of harm which took years to repair. He never returned to school and is now in college.

LyndsayYC Tue 03-Nov-15 22:22:13

Hello there, am new here so i apologise if i step on anyones toes.
I have a 11 year boy who has autism hes been though main stream all the way. Both infant junior schools didn't go well at all it was a total nightmare. We found teachers refusing to work with him and just expecting him to go with the flow. At one perticular point it was so bad my son was 2 1/2 years behind. I tried everything in my power to solve this but no one was willing to work with me. He has a very big proplem with his writen work his gross and fine motor skills just don't work well enough to enable him to write so people to read, for years school said he wasn't trying hard enough. Just before he sat his year six sats they got a ocupational therapist in and learnt it wasnt his fault so the week before he sat his sats they put a reader and writer in place and additional time. This actually took his grade from a level 3 which is behind to a ldvel 5 which is in front. Now high school has been a whole new story they have worked with him from day one. He finds homework to much so now only has to do homework for his 3 main subjects and his ta does it with him at school. He also does all of his work on a laptop as his writing won't improve as he physically can't do it. Hes in top set for all lessons and isn't far from being in the gifted and talented group for maths. Hes gone from being a anxious nervous school hating little boy to a confident popular school loving boy. So it is achieveable just a shame you have to fight to get people to help rather than hinder. Hope that helps smile

OneInEight Wed 04-Nov-15 08:01:33

Fine in infants. Not fine in juniors! ds1 fine again now his needs are being met in a specialist school. ds2 a work in progress and we have recently made the decision to home educate. ds2 is probably less "autistic" than ds1 but inspite / ?because of this has the worse mental health problems. Both are high functioning and until age 9 nobody raised the possibility of an ASD.

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