Hi everyone,
I'm quite new to this site.
I posted this thread on SN chat as I wasn't sure if it was this thread, or there that receive more posts. But --
I have a 5 year old DD who has severe verbal dyspraxia and has a speech and language disorder ( Understanding and speech is of a three year old).
Her behaviour is getting out of control. She insists on doing everything her way, and if this does not go in her way, I will expect a huge meltdown.
A few years back, many professionals have commented that she is very self directed, I've never really understood what this meant and it didn't effect our daily life. So I (regrettably) shoved this off. But now I can fully understand what they mean!
As an example, we went to a playgroup thing the other day. I told DD "let's do some painting", she refused, no coaxing or persuasion would change her mind. She wanted to go home, no if's no buts! If I refuse, she will run away! hit herself and have massive tantrum.
But yesterday was when I saw it in action. I wanted to get her foot measured, we did eventually measure it, but previously, she was not allowing the foot customer guy to measure her foot, she was crying, wailing, making weird noises. She was bored! and wanted to go outside. I then told her " I would take her to Nandos ( her favourite) if she would be quiet". She immediately kept quiet and allowed the customer service man to measure her foot.
This was a Big Mistake.
As soon as we left the shop and walked past the Nandos. Her rage began. She was screaming, hitting herself, lying down on the floor, biting me. When we got on the train, she was worse, she banged on the windows, wailing, screaming, dropped on the floor in front of the passengers.
I'm crying as I type this.
I don't know what happened to her! She wasn't like this before the summer. It seems like she has regressed. The hitting herself, just came out nowhere and she does it when she's frustrated.
How can I teach her to not always follow her own agenda and do what I say!
How can I help her to stop hitting herself.
Everyday I worry about DD's future, would this behaviour continue, will she gain more functional words. I'm just at lost sad
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Help! DD behaviour going out of control! Tips? Techniques?ABA?
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Thespiderinthebath · 25/10/2015 18:57
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