My ds1 is 7 and has asd. For years dh co slept whilst I co slept with my ds2( 4) .He doesn't need me to co sleep with him, I did it out of guilt really so I felt like he got me for that time to himself. Dh is fed up and wants me to sort this situation as he goes out to work and just can't function as dss sleep means he's constantly waking for a while during the night. I'm trying to uncurl myself out of this situation. The first step last night was both dss together, stories fall asleep then I moved ds2 into his own bed, left all bed doors open and made a camp bed on the floor next to ds1. I can hear ds2 from the other room v easily so thought I could comfort both. So, when each one woke I shushed and reassured that mummy was here, waited a Minute (didn't get into their beds) and went back to my camp bed- when ds1 woke I was right there in a second to soothe (again not get into bed) and reassure and he settled back down. This happened probably about 30 times with ds1, 5 times with ds2.
I am a zombie today.
I'm hoping this will get better.
Do I carry on with the strategy for a week and then move into the landing and do the same or do I have months ahead of me?
Ds 1 (asd) is non verbal and is used to the skin contact (one body part has to be in contact with his) so this is why he's constantly getting up. Ds2 (nt) is appreciative of the increased bed space but is much more aware "mummy didn't sleep with me last night" which I've emphasised means he's such a big boy and I also said I was watching him the whole time anyway because mummy's got to sleep in the floor with her bad back.
No melatonin purely because he gets to sleep within an hour and I feel this is more behavioural and I've made the mistake of allowing reliance on us being there when co-sleeping.
I just wanted to ask if anyone else had this battle?
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