Senco ignoring me

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2boysnamedR Mon 28-Sep-15 13:30:07

Ds year three is on his fifth senco. She was new this term.

She ignores my emails - doesn't get back to me about hand delivered letters. Head says it's the sencos department to answer my questions.

Is this in anyway normal? I refused to sign a pathway plan and nothing to acknowledge that. She asked permission for ds to be assessed by slt - I asked why and she ignored that two. It's been three weeks.

Tribunal is four weeks away.

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Notgivingin789 Mon 28-Sep-15 14:28:35

Can you book in to have a "meeting" with her?

Notgivingin789 Mon 28-Sep-15 14:29:27

Is she coming to your Tribunal as a witness for the LA side? That would explain her ignoring you.

2boysnamedR Mon 28-Sep-15 14:39:35

I hope she isn't being called as a witness as she has only worked for the school this term.

The la rep at the last hearing told me not to talk about the case but it was fine to talk about normal educational issues. IEP / pathway plans are normal stuff.

Isn't she going to look like a prat talking to me for the first time at this hearing? The school are submitting a statement tomorrow. I dread what they will say.

I can't arrange a meeting as she is blanking me on all fronts

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InimitableJeeves Mon 28-Sep-15 16:26:43

Can you go back to the head and ask how you can get your questions answered as SENCo isn't responding?

2boysnamedR Mon 28-Sep-15 16:31:25

He's just as bad. He practically dives into a bush if he sees me. He would rather go under a bus than deal with me.

I wonder why?

I'm a passive aggressive bitch very calm reasonable person.

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Notgivingin789 Mon 28-Sep-15 20:33:15

They LA have a tendency to change witness names...even on the day of Tribunal. So I wouldn't be surprised if they call her as a witness.

2boysnamedR Mon 28-Sep-15 21:18:04

I don't care who they call as a school witness. Any one of them is going to come across as a idiot. Unless it's the deputy head ( but the head seems to quosh any sensible suggestion she has).

The senco I never met or spoken to. But I can already tell she's not up to much.

The head gets very defensive but he's also quite clueless on SEN and it's definatly not on his radar. Getting back to ofsted outstanding is his only driving mission.

As long as they send someone. It got adjourned last time because the senco couldn't go.

I pre empt eyed that and emailed the deputy head in the summer. Radio silence ever since.

It's so blizzar. A parent with two sen kids who has children at the school for seven years is taking the LA to tribunal and not once ever has anyone ever asked what's going on.

I can't get my head round it. Christian school my arse.

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QueenStarlight Mon 28-Sep-15 21:39:56

'The la rep at the last hearing told me not to talk about the case but it was fine to talk about normal educational issues.'

Whaaaaaat? You can talk about what you like to whoever you want.

Notgivingin789 Mon 28-Sep-15 21:42:12

I understand 2boys but maybe that's why she's avoiding you.

InimitableJeeves Tue 29-Sep-15 00:01:29

You probably need to go down the formal complaint route. Firstly email the SENCO again saying something to the effect of "I'm really sorry to keep pestering but I do need a reply to this query and this is the ?th time I've asked. I don't want to get into conflict with you but if you don't reply I will be forced to enter a formal complaint." If that doesn't work, take the next step in accordance with the policy, which probably involves a complaint to the head. The policy should give a time scale for the head's response: if or when she doesn't reply or gives you a rubbishy reply, escalate it immediately to the next point in the complaint process, which is probably the chair of governors. Copy any complaint to the governor responsible for SEN.

2boysnamedR Tue 29-Sep-15 01:00:20

Omg! Sen governer is the worse of the bunch! I complained to her before asking why it took 18 months to get ds a sit n move cushion. She said they had followed procedure. When I raised it with the head governor he said it wasn't his problem - outside of his remit!

I asked for the policy stating they need to ignore OT's that go into school to advise.

Yet again I come out of it looking like the bad guy.

I will wait until weds. They are giving "case changing statement" then. Undoubtedly that I beat my son and he lives in the coal shed.

He told me today he has no senco on a Monday. Came out with no reading book, no jumper, no tie which is common practice yet I get told he doesn't read every night. Because he has no book!

Anyone reading this would know who I am. If you do - take a good at the mirror. Ask yourself honestly if this is good enough. Would you except it if you was a parent, if the answer is yes then you should be ashamed.

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InimitableJeeves Tue 29-Sep-15 07:41:43

Good grief, the entire place sounds dire. It's not an answer in the short term, but is there any chance of moving to another school?

Obs2015 Tue 29-Sep-15 07:50:45

Good God. How can any good come from this? hmm

QueenStarlight Tue 29-Sep-15 09:34:58

What do you suggest Obs?

2boysnamedR Tue 29-Sep-15 10:31:47

He's been there for three years and his brother was at the school for seven. I went to view our village school with the idea of moving him for year three. The senco / deputy head told me he would fall behind by two years there. She didn't see his statement. She didn't meet him. She told me that children in the village can't get into the school it's so over subscribed. But I found out that's not true as children from the NEXT village along get in - from over three miles away.

It put me off looking further out. There's another school named on his statement in another village near me.

Thing is he's happy there. He doesn't feel his struggling and school say he's bang on NT levels ( how I have no idea)

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Obs2015 Tue 29-Sep-15 16:51:01

I don't really have any advice. Was just acknowledging that it must be s complete nightmare.
Even after the tribunal, these specific problems aren't going to get any better, are they?
So, what are you hoping for OP?what is your plan? What is your list if wants?

2boysnamedR Tue 29-Sep-15 17:30:12

No nothing will improve after tribunal. Unless I get the weekly salt and 1:1 as that's better than nothing.

It won't improve the school or staff attitude there. I realise whatever happens he's lost out.

It's all a fruitless exercise that at best will prove ms failed him so he goes into a specialist secondary. I didn't know it pan out this way when I started my appeal over two years ago.

What next? No idea - but I will tomorrow as the school will realise a statement for the hearing tomorrow. I have to meet the nhs salt there in the morning.

I suspect I will write to the sympathetic deputy head and ask her where I go next.

Been told the head last term "it's clearly not good enough" then doing that again quite frankly is like me sticking with a adulterous husband who can't stop dropping his pants and can only up a sorry before he does it again

( dh by the way is fab by the way!)

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ChowNowBrownCow Wed 30-Sep-15 10:21:48

2boys I could have written your post! My sympathies as I know how utterly frustrating it can be to be ignored! My ds senco is always too busy to meet me, even when I've sent emails saying how depressed ds is at school. She twists things by asking ds without me being there questions and says things like " you don't like leaving your friends (he doesn't have any) in class and going off for one to one do you?" ! This is due to me applying for ehcp which she says she won't support our application. This last comment about the one to one is because that's exactly what ds needs, but she's recorded it as part of her evidence shock! I am hoping and praying we get ds a ehcp and that I can name another school for him where he will be understood and I get listened to. Good luck with your statementflowers.

2boysnamedR Wed 30-Sep-15 10:45:57

I would love to remove him. But he is emotionally fragile so leaving his friends to go to another ms isn't worth the upset. He's seven but mentally / emotionally I guess he's four / five.

I'm about to head down there.

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kojackscat Wed 30-Sep-15 13:21:56

I hope it's going OK, 2boys.

2boysnamedR Wed 30-Sep-15 13:33:56

Well he's bang smack in the middle of his class and he's boringly average confused the senco was there and replied to my email last night so everything is fine. Dispite me waiting almost four weeks. No harm done shock

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kojackscat Wed 30-Sep-15 14:14:04

As long as they can tick a box, everything is fine. (???)

2boysnamedR Wed 30-Sep-15 14:23:07

Yes indeed - but how do they think this is going to pan out in tribunal? I'm sitting there thing " that's very nice but you can't override my slt report" she says he needs a specialist language school, they say he's a adverage high performing child with good mannors and a great vocabulary. Two indi slts and two doctors say he has a laguage disorder. Who would you belive.

I have a pet unicorn. It lives in my shed. I've have said it so it's true right?!

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kojackscat Wed 30-Sep-15 14:44:17

If you say it enough times, it might become true.hmm

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