i'll apologise in advance for this being rambly because I'm struggling and frustrated and it all feels such a muddle in my head. I don't know what to do.
DS is 6(may) he is dry but soils his pants almost daily. he cannot read. he has an explosive temper and he has speech issues
toileting: he can use the toilet. he has gone periods of time where he will have no accidents for up to a week or so but usually he will have an accident, or at least stains in his pants. he says he doesn't know when he needs to poo, however there are times when he does know and will say so and go to the toilet. I have taken him to the GP who didn't even examine him but said it isn't uncommon for DC to still have toilet issues at age 6. he prescribed him movicol, however DS can taste it in his drinks and refuses to take it. I tried sneaking it in his cereal before bed which he didn't seem to notice but he didn't finish the bowl and I didn't notice any effect today. should I even be giving it at night?
reading: he hates reading. he will sit and look at books for ages and tell himself stories about what is happening. he will happily sit and be read to and he can recognise a few two or three letter words, his own name etc but that is it. when he is reading his school books it is very clear he is just remembering and guessing the words from the pictures, he doesn't even look at the words. when I try to get him to read he gets frustrated and refuses to read anymore.
temper: first brought to my attention when he was 4 in P1 by his teacher. continued into p2 and the teacher put him on an IEP and I saw progress, she also discussed with me the possibility of working with a family support worker at sure start which I have done now and he has been seeing FSW since july once a week although actually his temper losses seem to have gotten worse in that time IME. today in school he threw a chair and scratched two children. (yes he is that child) I am trying really hard at home and every morning reminding him about going to the quiet corner to calm down, smell the chocolate cake and blow out the candles (breathe in and out slowly) the teacher is also supporting this and allows him to just go to the corner if he needs to calm down. today's incident happened whilst he was in the quiet corner!
speech: he has been under the care of a SALT since he was 2 years old. initially because he wasn't speaking much at all and then his speech was very unclear. it has improved greatly but he isn't ready to be discharged however the school SALT is no longer available to him as he is now p3 so he will have to go to the hospital for his sessions. he has an appointment for late November and hasn't seen SALT since may.
thank you If you are still with me. I am starting to wonder if these aren't all separate things and are maybe all part of something bigger going on that I haven't spotted? also today his head teacher (when bollocking him for his meltdown in class) pointed out that he was chewing on his tongue a lot and swirling it about in his mouth, asked his teacher about whether he sits well in class (teacher said he does) and also said something else that sounded like "does he have a wobble ball?" (is that a thing?) but she kind of mumbled it so I couldn't really make it out but it was clear she was thinking something that she wasn't saying (to me) also, she kept having to ask him to "look at me" repeatedly, and I know I have to do this myself, he doesn't hold eye contact. I am seeing her again next Thursday to see how the week has gone and she mentioned intervention if behaviour doesn't improve.
so, could this all be part of something ive been missing or am I just that shit I cant get him to behave and go to the bloody toilet? I feel pretty shit today if im honest.
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does it sound like there is something more going on here or am i just a shit parent?
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