My ds is 4 and is obsessed with his nanny my mum to the point he wants to live with her rather Han in the family home he doesn't listen to me anymore he doesn't care he won't eat what I give him won't let me take him out only nanny can do this stuff. And the kick to the per verbal s was that he doesn't love me only nanny and daddy and his sister. I am now living apart frm my husband as my son was ts to sleep with nanny in her house so both kids and me have come i haven't slept with my husband since we got married 4 months ago. He refuses to poo on the loo he will hold on or poo in his pants and expect us to fish it out and put in the loo I have explained that this isn't an option at school so he said I'll hold on and make his anal fistula worse. I at my wits end. We had an day of fun planned but he's refusing to go so he's at In his room playing with one toy yet again and h's sister kisses out yet again I'm so cross at the moment help please tell me this is getting easier
He has aspergers in press of formal diagnosis but paediatrician said if he wasn't he'd eat his hat. He dost love me and he tells me doesn't wan to live with me. Won't listen to me won't even come in the house I'm quite strict as that's what he needs Nd my mu isnaodmback
ineed speaks loads of sense. And she knows her stuff. My DS control issues are always what cause the problems here. I would not move for him though.
The time he went mad and said he hated me and wanted to live with nanny I helped him pack his case, opened the front door and waved him off. He got 2m's
I don't condone my actions or think it's right but it was a turning point for us both in finding ways to manage. Children with autism often want boundaries because they feel unable to cope without routine - yet they push the boundaries strongly.
Move back home. For everyone's sake. If you've moved out at your DS say so and then say no to something else he's getting mixed messages which won't help. Are there any support groups near you.