Do you find your ASD child more suggestible?

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CrispyFern Sat 18-Jul-15 15:02:35

Just pondering if it's a DD thing or an ASD thing.

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PolterGoose Sat 18-Jul-15 16:46:28

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CrispyFern Sat 18-Jul-15 18:39:39

Sorry, I meant my DD, not general DDs!

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Ineedmorepatience Sat 18-Jul-15 18:50:51

I am sorry but I dont know what that means confused

reader108 Sat 18-Jul-15 20:59:16

I find my son can be quite gullible easily led into trouble by other children. If that's hat you mean eg 'lets go kick so and so'

reader108 Sat 18-Jul-15 21:00:16

What not hat sorry think my eyes are going!

Glittery7 Sat 18-Jul-15 21:10:23

No. Not at all. ASD DD aged almost 7. Very rigid in her thought process.

Cantthinkstraight7 Sat 18-Jul-15 21:38:09

I'm sorry, but I don't understand either. blush

strawberryshoes Sun 19-Jul-15 08:17:19

In an attempt to help those not really getting what the OP said...

Suggestibility is the quality of being inclined to accept and act on the suggestions of others. A person experiencing intense emotions tends to be more receptive to ideas and therefore more suggestible. (definition provided by google)

I would not say DD is suggestable, but does take things too literally - so when I say "if you don't move I shall hoover you up" she thinks I actually will (even when I point out she would not fit in the hoover!) This means when one of her "friends" told her she could only come to her party if she ate some grass (!) she was going to, because she wanted to come to the party, and took the demand as a literal clause for entry to the party. Thankfully a teacher spotted this happening and intervened. I should mention the party girl was talking to 3 friends, including DD and all of them were willing to eat the grass to come to the party, so it might not be an ASD thing, it might be a 5 year old thing.

CrispyFern Sun 19-Jul-15 09:40:35

I probably meant something different to what I wrote. blush

I meant, that, if she comes out of school upset and grumpy, and as she leaves, another mum asks me whether she had a bad day because she found PE difficult, DD will later report to her dad that she had a bad day because PE was difficult. She will tell someone in the shop on the way home that PE was very difficult for her today. She will talk quietly to herself about how she hopes it isn't PE again tomorrow because it was so hard. Then I remember she didn't have PE!

It is that she accepts another person's explanation or narrative (particularly when she's more emotional, or other people are more emotional) and uses it when talking to everyone else as if it's actually what she thinks.

It is not to lie to try to manipulate, or benefit herself. Actually, apart from this issue, she's very keen on the truth.

It can cause problems because if someone asks her a leading question she will answer in the way they are insinuating towards. But then apparently she truly believes it is true.

You can't say things like "How did you your sister hurt herself? Why is she crying? Did she fall?" because it will become a fall forever in her story, even if the actual answer is that she was hit by the bully next door. Or, worse, if someone asks that question the other way round "This is very important. I'm so angry. Did he hit her again?"

Both those last examples have happened where I witnessed the event and someone else asked her. She answers with whatever answer the question seems to lead her to.

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Rainicorn Sun 19-Jul-15 10:26:01

I get what you mean. Ds2 aged 9 is very like this. It worries me the more older he gets how open tomsuggestion (I think that's what I mean) he is. He is very easily led by his peers and is a real people pleaser. He hates to disappoint.

Cantthinkstraight7 Sun 19-Jul-15 10:43:52

I understand now. My daughter will take things people say to her as gospel. She went through a stage of being called a certain characters name, and actually thinking that was her name.

She has also been told various other things over the years, by adults and children and will take that as gospel!

ExtremelyStubbornAndSuspicious Sun 19-Jul-15 10:53:42

My DD isn't suggestible at all.

But she does have a habit of repeating phrases other people use word for word when she doesn't know what to say/ doesn't know how explain how she feels - even when the phrase doesn't make sense in context.

ouryve Sun 19-Jul-15 19:58:34

Haha! I'd love either of mine to be a little more suggestible grin

ouryve Sun 19-Jul-15 20:01:57

And no, if someone suggested that DS was struggling because of a particular event, they would be subjected to a diatribe about how they were wronger than a wrong thing gone wrong and did not understand him at all because nobody really knows him AND IT WILL NEVER GET BETTER AND LET ME BREATHE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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