I am not sure how to tackle this. We have been looking at universities and I have realised that ds will be moving away from home in just over a year so I need to deal with this issue now rather than just sitting on it.
Dh has long-standing bowel and joint problems in which we have always known involved genetic factor. A few months ago he also developed the eye complication which can go along with this genetic factor and so was tested for the relevant gene. I think this wasn't available previously when he had severe bowel and joint problems. However it has been identified that he does have this gene.
Dd was tested a couple of years ago when she first developed joint and mobility problems and we know that she hasn't inherited it.
Ds doesn't have any relevant symptoms and hasn't been tested and probably wouldn't be unless he did develop symptoms. These often don't appear until the person is in their twenties or thirties so they easily still could.
Ds is 18 and as I said will probably move away from home in the next year or so to study. Usually I would not hesitate to inform him about the family genetic background so that he is aware and can pass on the information to his doctors if any relevant symptoms develop.
However ds has ASD and is generally pretty anxious so I am cautious about adding theoretical worries to his life. He is also recovering from really severe OCD in which the main obsessions and rituals were around toileting and faeces in particular. I am not sure what the knowledge that he could develop severe, difficult to control diaorrhea might do to his OCD.. These factors make me want to keep the information to myself for the moment at least unless he actually develops any problems.
But he is an adult and a 'competent' one too so maybe he is entitled to the information.
Any thoughts welcomed.
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.
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A WWYD re ds (ASD) and unrelated genetic issue.
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