My son (10, probable ASD) will sometimes come home from school withdrawn, monosyllabic, grumpy, white. If I try to draw him out he says it is nothing, he's fine, just tired. Later it might come to him lying on his bed staring into space or listlessly fiddling with lego or his rubiks cube. He actively rejects my attempts to comfort or chat. I ask open questions, I ask closed questions, I get very little response.
This happened quite a lot last autumn and on the LAST DAY of winter term he managed to tell me by email that his so called friend had done something mean. After a series of messages it transpired theat he had been bullying him all term. I sat on the bed and answered him on my phone while he emailed from his laptop. The teacher dealt with it fine.
Today he is similarly grumpy and says he is tired. I have emailed him and am presently waiting a response.
But what else can I do? I don't even know if he always knows what is wrong, iyswim. It could be anything. It could be a minor disagreement didn't go his way, or he is worried about a trip coming up, or it could be bullying again. But if he won't fucking tell me how can I help? Is it all down to his social communication difficulties or he is drawing me into some kind of attention seeking thing? What can I do?
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