Just a bit of background. DS1 is nearly 9. Finally, 6 years after me raising concerns with the HV, it looks like he is going to get a diagnosis of AS. We've been treating him as if he has AS for years. Being careful what language we use as he takes things literally. Social stories, visual timetables etc. School is small and friendly so although he doesn't really have friends, he is accepted by the other children and they don't make fun of him when he wants to talk endlessly about trains.
DS2 is 7. He has severe hypermobility (EDS type 3). Gets high rate mobility DLA (and middle rate care) which they don't give out lightly. Uses a wheelchair for anything other than very short distances. His legs wobble when he walks. Sometimes he can't walk at all and is in a lot of pain. I often have to carry him to bed as he just can't walk anymore. DS2 gets hardly any help at school. He is allowed to sit on a chair in assembly and he usually has someone pushing his wheelchair on school trips (as well as looking after a group of children with the normal ratios). Last time he went on a school trip they left his wheelchair behind and DS2 was in an awful state when he got home. He was in agony and he collapsed on the bathroom floor and just cried. Took me ages to get him to bed because I had to carry him but he didn't want me to touch him as it was so painful. I was furious but the teacher said he didn't need it and there hadn't been that much walking. I've been trying to get him more support at school or even more understanding but whenever I think they understand I find out that they don't.
DS1 has seen the SALT and she has recommended we go into school and teach the teachers how to help DS1 and she recommended he join a social communication group (I think that's right) at school. We don't know if the school will agree and so far nothing has been implemented as the SENCO is off sick . But it's already looking more hopeful that he will get more support than DS2 who in my view has much more severe SN. I just don't get it. Maybe it's because the way we treat DS1 is 2nd nature to us now and it's not physically demanding like it is with DS2.
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I don't understand why ds1 is going to get more help at school than DS2
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elliejjtiny · 28/05/2015 21:17
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