Irrationally upset by a photo on FB.

[LeChien]

A friend has shared this photo on FB. She knows what's going on, that ds will attack us, swear, spit and punch at us. She knows what we're going through trying to get a diagnosis and trying to get some understanding from anyone.
We're not allowing him to do any of this. I know she's just sharing some crappy photo, but it feels like it's aimed at me and I feel judged and crap.

[LeChien]

I keep leaving but then come back because it's the only way I keep in touch with some people.
I'll be hiding her though.

I know it's nonsense, and I can usually ignore it but tonight it's floored me.

[Hedgyhoggy]

Wish there was a 'dislike' button! xx

[Levismum]

Your 'friend' is showing her ignorance...pity her!

[senvet]

What that thing says is bollocks for nt kids, and anyone in fact.

If your "friend's" dcs have never been allowed to be disrespectful to their parents eg when the dsc are tired or overwrought, then your "friend" would be a poor parent.

The difference for a child who is not nt is that they are overwrought and tired etc a lot more of the time.

[deadwitchproject]

Your "friend" is a big fool and this sort of rubbish will come back and bite her in the arse.

[deadwitchproject]

You're not behaving irrationally at all by the way, it would upset and annoy the hell out of me too.

[LeChien]

Thank you. I'm feeling much better today.
I've hidden her now.
Her dc are a long way from perfect! manners and respect wise! but she's very vocal and judgemental when it comes to others.

[oddfodd]

God people are so horrible :(

Glad you've hidden her posts. I feel so much happier now I've hidden the people who wind me up on FB

[Ineedmorepatience]

If you unfriend her you wont see anymore of her stuff!

Facebook is a cruel bizzare world where people think they can say/share whatever they like without engaging their brains!!

[Icimoi]

What a stupid notice. I suspect I would have a very rude response if it came up on my Facebook page. Does your "friend" feel that the children of Mick Philpot and Fred Phelps have to respect their parents and that they won't have true respect for anyone unless they do?

[Shootingstar2289]

Bless you. An autistic child is not being 'disrespectful' anyway. They just struggle. You know that and so does your partner, family etc so who cares what others think??

People are ignorant. I admit myself, that I knew little about autism until my son started showing signs.

I have a friend who is very clueless. She doesn't understand my son at all. Has often made comments about how doctors are too quick to diagnosis autism etc. I feel like screaming in her face that it takes months or years to get a diagnosis with all sorts of professionals, observations and meetings as you probably know. We don't really meet up anymore due to this. As my son is 'a bit different' as he tried to get in her pet rabbits cage, climbed on top of her daughters outside toys rather oddly rather than sitting on them correctly, spent half an hour in her bathroom washing his hands repeatedly, got into a bucket full of water fully dresses and just being a monkey lol while her daughter played happily with her toys.

Good luck in the future :)

[StarlightMcKenzee]

I don't think people genuinely believe of live by the soundbites that get banded around facebook often.

Also, there is a difference between being allowed to be disrespectful, and having a disability.

Finally, why is it the parents responsibility alone to instil respect? When schools and community undermine their attempts at every turn it is an impossible job, especially with a child who suffers majorly with anxiety.

It is very rare for a parent to 'allow' disrespect in this regard.

Just ignore it.

[2boysnamedR]

I gets easier to just ignore and switch off mentally to some people.

Here's a quote I found for you

I quite enjoy looking for these. I keep them on my phone to laugh at when I feel the red fog rising

[LeChien]

I like that 2boys :)

I've had a FB clear out and defriended a lot of people who for some reason I felt I couldn't before.
I feel a lot better for it!

Zzzzz, I agree, but I'm very unsocial, without FB I wouldn't keep in touch with anyone, even someone who lives in the same village

[Toounhappynow]

I had a friend who shared a link detailing how adhd medication was lazy parenting and poison to children when all they needed was over priced vitamins. She knew I was considering meds at this point after two years of a diet vitamin and exercise regime which made no bastarding difference.

I unfollowed her. I was absolutely raging.

As if they have any fucking understanding how hard it really is.