I have posted this in Child's Mental Health but thought there might be more traffic here. my DD doesn't have a DX but I do feel she has some additional needs.
In my heart I really feel my DD has some additional needs but everyone I speak to seems to suggest that 6 is too young to label a child and that all children act our during the separation of their parents......
My very sensitive and anxious child has always been prone to meltdowns/overstimulation and has suffered separation anxiety on and off Since her sister was born 4 years ago, I have really struggled to parent her. She has huge jealousy issues with her sister which mean I constantly have to reassure that I love her as much as her sister. She has always had meltdowns when overwhelmed/overtired. At times of stress, she can be very irritable and tearful on a daily basis. At the moment she seems to be permanently irritable with me and constantly seeking reassurance.
I find day to day living with her very stressful as she zaps all my energy. At the moment when she has a meltdown it is often triggered by her sister touching her. She then starts screaming, ripping her clothes off and insisting she smells and needs to wash herself. Sometimes she will sit in the sink running the taps and covering herself with soap. Today she screamed that she wanted to die, she wanted me to kill her, she wanted her contaminated arms taken off, she smelt, no one would like her etc.
The normal advice is you ignore tantrums but when I tried to ignore her she shouted at me saying I wasn't helping her and I didn't love her because I was ignoring her.
Sometimes she will kick and push me away and if I leave her to it she will calm down.
I really feel I need help with her. All advice so far seems to suggest I just need to be more assertive with her and start establishing boundaries and ignoring the negative behaviour.
But what if she really is depressed? Would I be right to turn my back on someone who so doubts my love. Problem is I'm the only witness to this episodes which is why everyone I speak to seem to suggest it is me and my anxiety that is the root cause and that only i can change things. Could there be more to it? She has never been assessed by anyone.
Can a child say they hate themselves and want to die and always be doing it for attention only? Is my crap parenting the only possibility here?
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Anxiety or something else. 6year old says she wants to die during meltdowns
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mooddisorder · 26/12/2014 21:55
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