I did a thread about this a while ago, but just need some encouragement and guidance.
DS, 5, has ASD and a severe speech and language impairment.
DS is a good when we are out, he doesn't mind changes into his routines- so I can take him somewhere new without have to prep-him.
Now since DS has been born- every time his grandma has taken him out shopping- she buys him what he want.
I too stupidly followed that tradition.
So every time we tell DS that we would not buy him- let's say crisps or sweet. He will go on the floor and end up having a tantrum.
Though, I recently noticed that sometimes, when he points out to the McDonald's that we walk past by, and he throws a tantrum because I told him that we are not going to McDonald's. It is genuinely because he is hungry- I know this as we were in the hospital for several hours and couldn't grab something to eat.
But it has come to a point- that I'm scared to take DS out with me shopping or I get terrified that he may notice his favourite places eg. McDonald's it sweet shops etc and throw a barney if we don't go to the shop.
Is this all due to his ASD (routine-rigidity ) or because his not use to is saying no that he cannot get what he wants. I ask this, as at times when I ask parents I am at lost why DS does this- they have always told me that is because it has become into a habit for him. Yeah ( a 5 years habit) and that in needs to addressed now or it will get worse.
In a sense they are right- I was advised by my autism outreach worker to use a timetable- but it didn't really work, all the timetable just did was reinforce his understanding of the food items- but he still cried when I didn't buy him what he want or when I walked past his favourite shop.
I then realised that in order for DS to change- I had to change. I had to stop giving in to his demands.
I can't forever always avoid taking DS out shopping- he needs to learn from these experiences.
I was thinking that maybe- once a week I'll take DS out shopping to shop for small items- like bread and milk. If DD throws a big tantrum- I'll simply leave my shopping and return home.
In terms with waking past his favourite places- I'll simply leave what I was going to do and return back home.
Is this a good plan? Has any other parent been in this situation? Does this stem from his ASD-rigidity? As my autism outreach doesn't seem to know why the visual timetables doesn't seem to work in this scenario.
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adrianna22 · 26/12/2014 16:09
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