My dd is 3 1/2. As a small baby I had no concerns. She smiled and laughed, good eye contact, loved other people and children, waved, pointed to things etc.
She sat up at about 7 months.
However she didn't move until she was 17 months and then began bottom shuffling, then she crawled and combined the two. She finally walked at 27 months.
During that time she was under a paediatrician. She has a mole at the base of her spine and she had an MRI to check for spina bifida/tethered spine but all was ok. She does have a gap in her spine but it's nothing more then a defect and they did not think it is in any way connected to her late walking.
She was seen by a physio too, who felt she did have hyper mobility in her wrists which may have played a part in her not pulling to stand etc.
Anyway drying her non walking days she became extremely frustrated and went from being a happy little girl to an understandably angry girl. When her peers began walking around her, she was quite frightened.
Frustrated because she couldn't do the same and upset because they would walk towards her and she couldn't get away.
So she began shouting/screaming at them and I'd spend a lot of time carrying her because I felt sorry for her. I also began to stop going to toddler groups because it used to annoy me that people would still allow their children to keep going over to her knowing full well she was distressed by them.
Once she began walking her mood lifted, she began to get friendlier again. She has 3 much older brothers who she adores and all of their friends too. She play fights with them, follows them about and generally really loves them. She is good with others her age but if she had a choice she'd always play with older ones.
We started her at pre school in January and she really enjoys it. In September, after the long holidays she seemed a bit reluctant to go. But then I realised that suddenly she was one of the eldest, the older children had gone to school and she was surrounded by younger ones and those her own age. She was ok and eventually became friends with 2 girls who are the eldest in her year group, so they mother her and she likes it.
The pre school called me in the other day, to discuss her development, her speech is slow and they mentioned autism traits. She'd much rather play on her own then join in with younger kids, spends a lot of time looking at herself in the mirror, reluctant to draw, paint etc but will do if prompted and is not really bothered by the other children.
At home, she can still scream and if we're out she'll insist on being carried. If we go somewhere and she's not keen, she'll scream blue murder but if we stick to our guns and stay wherever we are she calms right down and joins in.
Fussy over clothes, hates wearing boots (fine with shoes). Likes watching the same things on TV ( but we've let her and since we've been stricter she's got over it). Reluctant to feed herself meals, preferring to be spoon fed, but in her defence because she's so fussy I've fed her because it was easier.
At first, I thought the ore school had a point but since writing all these things down, I can't help but think it's us. We've done too much for her. I can't help but think her screaming and wanting to be carried stems from when we picked her up during her non walking days. Her tantrums are always linked to her not wanting to do something.
This weekend we've encouraged her to do more for herself and we've noticed a difference already. I'm happy for her to be referred but the more I read about autism/aspergers the less convinced I am.
Sorry it's so long but I'd be really interested in what others think. I don't want to sound like I'm in denial but I'm just not sure!
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