DS1 is nearly 5, just started Reception in September. He hasn't been diagnosed with anything yet, and he is very borderline. He has had delays and his interactions and social skills are like a much younger child, he has no idea of personal space and is very impulsive. he makes odd noises and repeats sounds almost for fun. He might whack or hug, but you can never tell what he's going to do.
He is adorable and loving and intelligent and empathetic to a certain extent, but I feel has has Autistic traits/behaviours. Anyway, the school are amazing with him and are giving him superb support (he has a TA with him all day most days) and helping to learn how to socialise, but despite this several little girls in his class have told me that he is naughty. What should I tell them? I don't want to single him out as different as he is trying so hard to fit in. And I don't want to condone naughty behaviour, and I'm sure his teachers are strict, whilst making allowances for him; I still want him to behave himself, as I think he is capable of it.
It breaks my heart that he now has the reputation as The Naughty Boy. So even when he is doing nothing wrong in my opinion, the little girls tell tales on him, and come running to tell me what he is doing int he expectation of watching him getting told off....'X is running too fast' 'X is playing in the bushes, he's not allowed in the bushes' on out short walk to school. Me, not very mature responding with "who says he's not allowed?" So now he's not even allowed to do normal little child actions without these sanctimonious prissy little girls judging him and me! And probably telling their parents how awful he is too......
I know it's not a huge problem in the grand scheme of things (and i know his problems are mild compared to others') but it gets me down to see my lovely, not-quite-up-to-their-standard boy being labelled as the naughty one.
By the way, the boys in his class don't really play with him as I don't think they quite 'get' him, and he is desperate for them to be his friends, but they also don't tend to relish telling tales on him or anticipate him getting told off like the girls do....
I just feel very sad for him. The school is great, and very big on SEN, and they are helping him as much as they can in terms of trying to make friends, and he seems happy enough, it's just me that gets sad!
Sorry, epic post for such a small matter really, again I know lots of you on this board have bigger problems.
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What can I tell other children when they tell me how naughty my son is?
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