DS very loud shouts, squawks and screams upsetting his twin

[deadwitchproject]

My DTS2 has been referred to the Development paediatrician - finally!
A problem we've had for a while now has been his noise levels. He's extremely loud, so loud that our upstairs neighbours can't take it anymore and have put their flat up for sale

The worst thing for me is that he is upsetting his twin. My DTS1 usually cries every time he gets startled by his twins loud noises and at the very least has a permanent wobbly lip He hasn't got used to his noise levels at all. I don't think any of us have, it's very distressing but we try our hardest to tune it out and see what is troubling him.

He's 22 months old and non verbal. He recently had his tonsils out which helped a lot with his breathing. He takes vits, minerals, probiotics, omega oil, coconut oil, organic food mostly and I'm currently investigating enzymes.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm desperate to help both my boys.

[deadwitchproject]

Anyone?

How do your DC cope when upset by the behaviour of their siblings with asd? How do you cope? Would really appreciate some guidance.

[deadwitchproject]

thanks for your replies.

Polter, he's had glue ear in the past for about 7 months which most definitely effected his development. He got the all clear in the Spring and I don't think it's come back yet. Both he and his twin have been dairy free since 4 months so I was advised to supplement with vitamins once they stopped the prescription formula (they are on oat milk). Once DTS2's behaviour became a big concern at around age 1, I started supplementing with omega oils, coconut oil in his cereal and probiotics. I have to say it's made a big difference.

Recent allergy tests have shown that they're not allergic to dairy [hmmm] so I'm going to try and reintroduce it soon. DTS2 does have a mild peanut allergy though. I haven't made a note of when he screams as it seems to be constant but that may be the stress talking. I will start to make a note of it and see if there's a pattern.

zzzzz, my boys do sleep together and they used to be ok with it but now DTS1 gets increasingly disturbed by his brother. We have a small flat so not possible to get another cot into our bedroom unfortunately. We bought a mini trampoline for them a week ago and it's been a great success. I wish we had the room to have two facing one another - that's such a great idea.

Yes, life is sometimes very, very hard but am pleased that the rewards will come.

[mymatemax]

does your DTS2 like wrapping or pressure?

Have you had a sensory assessment for him? If the noises are coming from sensory seeking maybe substituting it for a less disruptive stimuli may be helpful.
dS2 would sniff & suck & lick.
We increased bouncing (trampoline) and then allowed him to wrap up & we give him lots of pressure, (a part deflated exercise ball rolled along him firmly is his favourite).
It seems to meet his sensory needs but in a more appropriate way.

It may be worth experimenting.

[deadwitchproject]

thanks mymate, I think he definitely has sensory issues but haven't had an assessment for him yet, that process should start in the new year.

He usually hates cuddles or pressure/touch of any kind but every now and again will allow us to cuddle him and he'll pat our backs. He's licks and chews everything and bounces around the sofa all the time. He stiffens his body a lot for no apparent reason - is this a sensory thing? He's a toe walker but will put his feet down when I ask him too (eventually).
I'll try with the ball today, thanks for the tip.