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Acciosanity Sun 09-Nov-14 21:41:22

DS is really struggling since the start of the school year. He's miserable about school, cries every morning.
Problem is he masks there so of course they don't t see it.

I've had meetings with his teacher and senco and he' s been put in a social skills group and on the Elsa scheme. I'm just hoping these help him.

I can't bare to see him so miserable, can't bare the constant meltdowns, our weekends are so stressful with him screaming and kicking off over everything.

I just don't know what to do anymore. How can I make things better for him?

DishwasherDogs Sun 09-Nov-14 22:03:12

I don't know, ds sounds similar.
We're considering a move to a very small school that have a good reputation with SN, but we don't know if it'll help or make it all worse.

Sorry I'm not saying anything useful, but you're not alone thanks

Acciosanity Sun 09-Nov-14 22:14:58

Thanks but sorry you're in the same boat.

Sucks doesn't it?

zzzzz Sun 09-Nov-14 23:41:53

How old is he?

Acciosanity Mon 10-Nov-14 20:23:39

He's 7. Just gone in to year 3.

zzzzz Mon 10-Nov-14 20:39:59

Is he diagnosed with anything or muddling along? Mine is 9 now and has been HE since 9.

Acciosanity Mon 10-Nov-14 20:50:26

Sorry should have put proper details. He was diagnosed with Aspergers earlier this year.

HE not an option for us, I need to work.

zzzzz Mon 10-Nov-14 20:58:52

Sorry that should have read "HE since 7.5"
I think it's quite a common age to start really struggling. FWIW secondary may be much easier for him, particularly if he is at the top end of his class. You just need to survive the next three years without too much damage.

What support DOES he have?
What do you think would help?

Acciosanity Mon 10-Nov-14 21:06:19

To be fair to school they've really started stepping up since I went in and poured my heart out.

He has a session with the sen ta once as week to talk about feelings and worries and how to handle them, also has a social skills group once a week. These only just started so haven't seen a change yet.
They sent him home with some social stories about change last week.

He doesn't have a statement.

Acciosanity Mon 10-Nov-14 21:06:57

I don't know what would help. I'm pretty lost tbh.

PolterGoose Mon 10-Nov-14 21:58:32

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Acciosanity Mon 10-Nov-14 22:30:41

He has a card he can use if he needs to get out of the classroom. Problem is he won't use it! It's frustrating for all of us really that he's like a closed book, gives nothing away at school at all. I guess it' s a case of building up trust with someone?

I try to keep home stress free. I've told school I won't be doing homework with him unless he initiates it, they were a bit funny about it but I said his mental health comes first.
Also got a fancy dress day coming up, he won't dress up so I've told them he won't be. Hopefully him seeing me telling school rather than asking means he knows I've got his back iykwim?

I can't see him coping in another school. He knows people there, has a couple of boys he's friendly with in his own way and I think it would stress him more to go into a new place with new people. Plus got DD to think about too.

God I bore myself some days with the stresses of it all!

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