Please don't less of me, or out me if you recognise me from another name, I'm feeling stupid already.
I've had a lot of comments about DD (2yrs) from sources, and I've been pretty thick skinned. MY HV referred her to physio... but in my area it's one referral form for all and the referral panel sent DD for a multidisciplinary assessment (they had previous hospital reports, I've spoken to a SALT drop in so they had info beyond the form). I've been adamant with the specialist HV from the Child Development Team that DD is fine, she's been prodding and referred DD to a makaton course... I sound like an idiot but I said DD was fine and asked them to discharge DD from the CDC. She took all the information to panel again, and they refused to discharge DD and said they were 'very keen to see her'.
A comment 'we only want the best for DD' has really cut into me. I do! I feel like everyone I talk to has fought for their DC to have support, and now I feel like an awful person who's tried to stop help and I worry it's marked my card too as a parent with the team.
I'm getting ready to listen now, it's just been WHAM from 'all ok' to 'multi-dsicplinary assessment', which has been hard to digest. Everyone has jumped in two feet first with the presumption that I've been worried and trying to get dd assessed. I've also realised just how many people, from children's centre, to SALT drop in, to audiology (glue eat), to children's centre staff have flagged her in conversation to the HV, when no one approached me and just seemed to adore DD (she's tiny and smiley). DD is a smiley happy girl and it's easy to just enjoy her without any worry at all. I think her brother also does everything for her too. She was discharged from a well respected hospital at 11months with a lot of reassurance, and that's been my amour that she must therefore be just fine. Now it's been cracked finally I see more and more, little subtle things like staff saying 'ooo, don't go in DD's space!' and gently redirecting other children or seeing DD won't EVER go in the same space as an unknown child. Or that other children don't have to use their hands to go up tiny steps, or they look easily in conversation rather than thinking if they avert their eyes and sit really still people will go away On the ages and stages questions she'd be flagged in the one for 12 month olds in more than one area.
Has anyone else had a rocky start. Or am I THAT parent. I worry they think I don't care about DD or neglect her, when it's just I adore her and couldn't accept any perceived fault. I do LOTS to stimulate her, I knew she benefited but I saw progress and have seen her as within the normal range. I've been happy to be told about xxx who didn't talk etc. until they were in school etc. I knew deep down she needed extra teaching, and I've done a lot with her compared to the others, but I saw it as just 'her'.
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