Pushing for autistic diagnosis for 5.5 yr old son!!

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My son is 5.5 and has been under a community paediatrician for 18 months for assessment for high functioning autism/aspergers. He was referred in reception by the SALT as he had issues with social communication and structure in reception. Fast forward 18 months and he is much better he is far more settled at school as the structure and more work based learning suits him much better rather than the free play in reception. He still has problems with tact and logic and he has a memory and observation skills that are top notch. This years teachers have no problem with him and find him a delight to teach. Yes he has huge meltdowns if anything goes wrong or routine changes but nothing school can't cope with. I can cope with him at home and again as long as everything goes to plan he is fine. Other family members find him hard work but that is basically because they just cant be bothered to deal with him and end up making the situation worse. Anyway to cut a long story short the paediatrician thinks as there are no issues with him at school we don't need to go for further diagnosis as she doesn't think a diagnosis will do him any favours and she doesn't like labelling children and we both agree that he has improved a lot in a year but I have other mothers who ate saying I should push to get him a diagnosis in case he needs help later on in school. The paediatrician agrees he shows several of the autistic traits but they aren't serious enough to warrant a full blown autistic diagnosis and he loves school and copes well 90 % of the time just not the 10% when things go wrong. So just wondering what others people's advice is should I push to get him an autistic diagnosis or just leave him be!! Thanks