No need to reply to this, I just need to vent, and debrief.
So my friend came over this afternoon with her 2, one a little older than DD, one a baby.
The idea was her older one would play with my DD and she would entertain the baby while we had a chat. I had warned her in advance DD is not a very social child, and is at the start of an autism dx.
Well, it was as bad as I thought it might have been. DD was initially excited to have visitors and asked the older girl to play with her, but it was pretty clear she did not know what this actually meant in practice. I had to mediate some turn taking board games (which were not too horrible, but I was certainly needed) but then DD became bored with this and decided it would be funnier to throw things at the baby (soft toys thank god) which I explained was not acceptable. She pushed the boundaries - she finds it funny to do things which cause a reaction in others, even a negative one, so I distracted her with some of her favourite toys which the older child wanted to join in with. This did not go well, as DD wants to play with them a certain way, and the other child was suggesting deviating from this, so I stepped in and got the other child doing some jigsaws. DD then decided to try to crush the baby's hand with a hard toy, which meant she had to be removed from the situation and I explained this hurt, so she should not do it, but it was like she genuinely did not care about causing the baby pain, and was very "Why can't I hurt her?". I am 38 weeks pregnant at the moment and this does not give me hope.
Obviously there was no time to chat. The older child was frustrated at not being able to play with DD. DD was hyper and difficult. They have gone now, and things are calm and relaxed again, but I am depressed that another social interaction has once again highlighted DDs issues. They just don't show until she is with other children, but when she is, it is like being slapped in the face with them. Ugh, I am exhausted.
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Terrible playdate - no need to reply, just venting.
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JoinTheDots · 25/02/2014 15:44
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