Night waking has returned now she's at school

[lougle]

DD2. Saturday night she was up twice sleep-walking/confused, then up from 9.30pm-midnight.

Last night she was up at 12.15 am with a nightmare.

Tonight, she's just woken in a sleep-walking/confused state again.

I'm not sure if it's 'proper' sleep-walking, but she's confused/agitated and doesn't remember it in the morning, so she's not properly awake.

Flipping school.

[bialystockandbloom]

It's crap isn't it. Ds had stomach aches for much of the last half-term, funnily enough on Sunday nights when he knew there was school the next day.

Any plans to summon up strength to talk to school again?

We realised that ds talking about hating noise at school was basically because he was losing motivation, so started a "well done" list each day - listing all the things he did well that day - he really loved reading through it after school and it definitely helped with confidence and motivation, which is in turn helping him overcome the aversion to noise (still a work in progress though). Is there anything you can identify that might help while you wait for school to start taking you seriously?

[Ineedmorepatience]

Sorry to hear this lougle I feel sorry for our lovely children. Dd3 is so happy in the holidays and so sad today

[lougle]

That's a nice idea.

Dragonflies is quite a motivator, but this morning she was talking about how nervous she was about going to school, and even the talk of dragonflies didn't shift it, although she then got ready calmly.

Once we got to school she was quite hyperactive in the playground (making bizarre dance moves; whipping an imaginary lasso like a cowboy with a yee hah; making strange facial expressions; exposing her tummy, etc.) I got the impression it was releasing the stress, if you know what I mean.

[lougle]

Pants is a good word. Oh well, I get my DD2 back in 6 weeks

[bialystockandbloom]

Yes I think you're right about the stress relief tactics. It's so hard when a) you can't exactly work out what is at the root of it (except for everything of course!), and b) school are so unwilling to discuss it with you. Can you try again to meet with the class teacher to try and find out more about how she is during the day? Whether there are any times during the day when she seems more anxious/fidgety/unhappy?

[lougle]

Class teacher was off for part of the week before half term, and another person I've never met was letting them out at the end of today, so I'm not even sure if she's there. I'll check tomorrow.

[Skylar123]

I'm sorry to hear this lougle it's so hard. I love the holidays so much easier in comparision. My Ds not even going to sch anymore. Hope you manage to get a decent discussion with the school on how to help your dd2

[StarlightMcKingsThree]

Are you keeping a diary?

[lougle]

Not as such, Star, but I always post in here, so it doesn't disappear. I probably should keep a diary.

I should keep a diary. I'm feeling quite defeated, tbh. I can only be comforted by the fact that as she gets older she'll either seem to fit in more or seem to stand out more. Year 2 is a 'no-man's land' year, I think.

[StarlightMcKingsThree]

I think you really need to keep a diary of night wakings tbh. This may well show a pattern that might be useful later. I.e never waking in holidays. Increased waking on Sun etc.

[StarlightMcKingsThree]

Don't feel defeated. None of us have the resources to do everything we feel we should be doing for our kids including the resource of persuasion.

Keeping a diary isn't the solution of today, but tomorrow. You'll be glad you did it when the time comes and it might just bring it forward.

[lougle]

Thanks Star, that's really encouraging.

The night wakings definitely follow a pattern. None when she's on holiday, then (normally) the Friday/Saturday before the term restarts, she's up in the night for several nights.

I'm a bit concerned that Dragonflies didn't allay her nervousness today....and she didn't really mention it at all tonight, except to say she 'hadn't done much because of you know why.' She's normally raving about it.

[youarewinning]

Yes do keep a diary. I found a pattern and even noticed a pattern opinion what type of wakings he had. Eg sleepwalking, not settling and swimming instead etc!

[lougle]

Ok...diary it is.