feeling down again

[iloveithere]

DS was making good progress in his behaviour placement. They reccomended a phased return to school. But in the last two week,s i feel like we have gone backwards again.
He has begun hurting others, just getting up from a activity, walking across the class, and scratching, for no apparent reason.

I feel like giving up, just curling up in bed and not getting up again.

[sammythemummy]

Hi ilove

That sounds awful, I'm sorry. It's such a roller coaster with our children :(

Was there a trigger for his behaviour?

I don't really have much advice just that I can understand how frustrating it is.

[iloveithere]

no one can work out a trigger,that the frustrating thing.

thanks for answering, it got a bit frantic here and i had to log off yesterday. feeling a bit better today, hope this feeling continues!

[OneInEight]

I am not clear if the behaviour has only returned when he is back in mainstream? My son's behaviour is much improved since he has been in a very small & friendly BESD school but I am sure it would come back in full force if he returned to mainstream. I am not sure exactly what it is about mainstream he can not cope with - too many people, chaos, unsympathetic teachers - I suspect the accumulation of lots of little things. It might just be suggesting that he needs a more permanent specialist setting.

[iloveithere]

He is not back in mainstream yet, he has always been doing 2 days a week, increasing to 3 after half term, and his teacher at the center suggests a speedy return.
But that was 2 weeks ago, behaviour deteriorated since then.

He has no diagnoses, possibly sensory issues, he has been referred to OT and we are waiting on that. I am not really sure what it means, Polter, can you tell me a bit more about what sensory issues are and what the OT does?

Oh, he is only 5 years old.

[iloveithere]

thanks, ill have a read of those links.

[iloveithere]

There are about 7/8 in the class, no idea about the other questions, what goes on there is a mystery to me. All I know is it was working wonders till about two weeks ago, and we seem to have slipped right back. The teacher at the placement said on Friday that he needs a statement, the first person to agree with me on that, so after half term she is going to help me with that. Not sure mainstream school will be happy though.

[TigerLightBurning]

Our OT recommended www.sensory-processing-disorder.com

[iloveithere]

We went to a museum yesterday that had lots of sound effects. He got v upset, crying, asking to go home, saying he didn't like the noise. Thing is, he has been there before and was fine about it. Could this be a sensory issue, or just a child being silly?

[Julia2132009]

That does sound like my boy (same age) and his sensory problems. His sensitivity to things does change (noise, crowds, lights, lots of colours and stuff going on around him). When he's tired or stressed, especially when things have been going badly at school, his nervous system seems to be able to tolerate less, and when he's in a good place, feeling calm, he can cope with a bit more. When he has had a difficult week at school, it definitely affects what he can cope with at the weekend. That's how it seems to me anyway - I'm still trying to understand it all.

Sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. Since Sept my boy has been breaking other children's models at school, throwing and pushing. He is a really lovely person, but it was all just too much for him and he wasn't able to be his lovely self. He has a TA now helping him and he has stopped doing those things and is much happier.