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Please stand in the line with me! School pick-up time. Let's stand together!

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Mummyoftheyear Sat 14-Sep-13 05:56:58

I'm so used to standing outside my son's class in semi-dread (some weeks full-dread) of what the teacher is going to speak to me about. Not that it's often terrible. But that it's terribly often.
While other mummies seem to wait, chat, collect and go, I pretend to smile and try to chat with my stomach fully lodged in my mouth.

Silent prayer while standing in the line: 'Gd I hope he's been good today. If not, please gd may other mums not hear/ notice that the teacher wants another word today.'

I thought it'd be nice to 'stand together' with other mums who dread pick-up time and all its uncertainty.
To share the "s/he had a good day"s; to celebrate the incredibly fantastic days when nothing was said by the teacher at all - and not just because you've made a quick escape! And, possibly most importantly, to stand together (listen, hug, sympathise and commiserate) when our children have had a bad day - or their teachers have complained again!

How was your child's day at school today?

FrussoHathor Wed 18-Sep-13 09:02:52

mummy ((hugs)) I do think maybe the AP was looking for and excuse to leave. We have something near us called cool2care that has a bank of SN care workers that help you find someone. Do you have something similar?
We interviewed and trialled a few workers before we found the girl we have. She dotes on dd despite regularly being attacked.
We pay for her through direct payments and have a contract written up for her, which means she can't just leave without giving proper notice. Perhaps this sort of set-up would be better for you?

Mummyoftheyear Wed 18-Sep-13 10:06:54

Frusso, that sounds just what I need. And I'm desperate!
I've never heard of it in Hertfordshire. Going to google but do you have a number I can call (your one) as they may know of a 'branch' near me smile

Mummyoftheyear Thu 19-Sep-13 13:37:08

Called them this morning. Sounds fantastic!!!

FrussoHathor Thu 19-Sep-13 13:45:04


Divinity Fri 20-Sep-13 09:53:54

I found breakfast club a godsend. There's little waiting around, a small number of parents so no cliques and, most importantly, DS (7, ASD) is much calmer and less anxious . It's also enabled him to make good friends with two boys in his class as there's time to socialise with the small number of breakfast clubbers.

Its the same with the after school kids (from all local schools) over time they have accepted him and even voted him onto the afterschool club council. My jaw dropped at that! They all speak to him when we see them out and about and are not phased when he doesn't respond very well.

So I scrape the money together to make sure he has this routine. Beats being the shitty school run mums anyday.

Divinity Fri 20-Sep-13 09:54:36

Oh fantastic how did that happen? Stupid phone

Mummyoftheyear Mon 23-Sep-13 21:54:02

How's the week going?

TigerSwallowTail Tue 24-Sep-13 11:57:37

Ds had his first day at after school club and spent the whole time telling the staff he hated it and was never coming back. I asked him what was so bad about it and he said they played Simon says and he hates that game as he didn't want to do everything some guy says when he's not even met him!

Luckily he's only in once a week.

Mummyoftheyear Tue 24-Sep-13 15:05:56

Tiger, I LOVE it! Brilliant.
My son came out of school on his first day of school this year branded with a sticker that read: "School was great today!"
He ripped it off and handed it to me, saying, "School was NOT great today. No toys. We had to work. And I TOLD them that I didn't want one of those silly old stickers!"
While I'd live him to enjoy going with the flow, I've got to admire a child bright enough to form his own opinions ;)

specialmagiclady Tue 24-Sep-13 16:13:03

Not alone - me or you. Feeling bruised after today's pick-up-athon. Still, at least DS isn't getting lost in the crowd every day after school.

Small mercies.

TigerSwallowTail Tue 24-Sep-13 17:13:10

Aw that's cute mummy, ds had quite a rant about having to do work in school instead of playing with toys too.

special I didn't have a good pick up today either, I was taken aside to speak to the teacher about his behaviour today. Why does it always feel like I'm the one in the bad books too?

Mummyoftheyear Tue 24-Sep-13 22:43:48

Pick-up-athon. New day, new beginning ;)
What kind of behaviour, Tiger? Sometimes the stuff they talk (moan) to us about is actually pretty low level - though irritating and hard to manage. Easy to be objective when it's someone else, but if nothing serious, don't let it be an embarrassment. Just an irritation?
Two mums were hushed-chatting and I overheard phrases like "Why should we (our blessed children) suffer...?"
Call me paranoid (after almost daily teacher-chats since nursery school, I am!), I prayed that it had nothing to do with my son.
In bed now. Still praying!

Divinity Tue 24-Sep-13 22:49:20

I haven't been pulled aside but will be soon as I discovered DS(7) has had detention twice and keeps being told off by the teacher. He said he doesn't know what for. sad Unfortunately a boy who was expelled from the infant school in year 1 has joined the seperate junior school and is in DSs class. I'm worried that DS will mimic this boys challenging behaviour as DS can do this as he struggles with the social side so will eg laugh inappropriately (ASD).

May have to bite the bullet and see his teacher before it escalates (and I get the school gate 'talk')

Mummyoftheyear Wed 25-Sep-13 06:14:08

Divinity, sounds like a plan. Worth talking your concerns re other boy over w teacher. Better than waiting for the inevitable / concern to happen.

TigerSwallowTail Wed 25-Sep-13 13:51:33

He is part of an after school homework club that meets once a week, it was recommended by his teacher to try and work on his social skills but I'm still waiting for an improvement! They all get a snack at this club but they ran out and a boy infront of ds got the last thing which caused uproar from him. He spent the rest of the time complaining, refusing to do any work and being horrible to the boy who was infront of him at the snack queue for 'stealing' his snack.

I get that he struggled to cope with the sudden change in routine, he always gets a snack at this club and looks forward to it and then all of a sudden he didn't get anything and other children did, but I have no idea how I can stop him behaving like that if it happens again.

It is parents night tonight too and already the butterflies are fluttering about in my stomach.

Mummyoftheyear Wed 25-Sep-13 14:53:48

Know the butterfly feeling all too well. They need to be aware of his sensitive nature and it was for the teachers / those running the hw club to help to reassure and settle him. Social stories might help. Have a google. Such a Shane for him to be under scrutiny when he so ckeay needed support through a difficult moment or two.

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