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Pathetic comments thread

(73 Posts)
goldenretriever Sun 08-Sep-13 17:50:07

Have had 2 interesting comments from work colleagues about my son with ASD recently which I wanted to share. Firstly, 'That's like Down's Syndrome, isn't it?' Secondly, 'They are more loving when they're like that.' Not to take away from my OH's Mother who bought him a rain coat and helpfully told me she had bought him a dark blue one 'rather than a red one so he didn't stand out, with him being the way he is' FFS. Anyone for anymore?!

zzzzz Thu 12-Sep-13 20:56:31

ellie sounds fair enough if she could ask personal questions why couldn't he?

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Thu 12-Sep-13 22:02:47

ellie I think your DS sounds wonderful! What an absolutely perfect response!

<no offence to anyone with a non-British accent, just that particular one!>

I was recently told that at least bluechick might be in the Paralympics one day. Now I actually think it would be great if she was and loved the Paralympics but I was a bit hmm at that seemingly making up for her chromosome abnormality and associated health problems.

Spiraling Thu 12-Sep-13 22:13:22

'His to handsome to be autistic' from his step gran.
' we are all autistic', his gran, well pretty true in our family.
'He should try and read a wider variety of books' from his teacher. He only reads beast quest books, oh and with someone sat with him, but his reading, really reading shock.

Trigglesx Thu 12-Sep-13 22:22:40

Oh, yes, the "he's too clever" and "maybe he'll grow out of it" and "you wouldn't know anything was wrong with him just by looking at him."


imawigglyworm Thu 12-Sep-13 22:57:29

A ex (thankfully) friend said to me once 'i'd love to have a special needs child because you get treated different, get lots of attention and get everything given to you'
??really when? and mostly not good attention!!
and she also said about my ds 'I knew he was special needs the first time I saw him'
Im glad she did because it took almost a year to convince drs, paeds and consultants etc [hmmm] how I didn't slap her is beyond me?!

We've also had a few of the comments above too, my pet peeve is 'he will grow out of it/catch up' ummm NO he wont!

claw2 Thu 12-Sep-13 23:35:05

I think my all time fav has to be 'if I had him for a week, id soon have him eating/toilet trained/doing homework ....insert whatever else he cant do'

And you just know that plenty of others are thinking exactly the same thing, without actually saying it. All that kid needs is a bit of a discipline!

Trigglesx Thu 12-Sep-13 23:36:54

claw2 yes, I've heard that one. I think people sometimes think that the behaviours stemming from the disability can be fixed with discipline. Ridiculous, isn't it?

claw2 Thu 12-Sep-13 23:41:51

It is and im very tempted to hand him over for a week and see how they get on too!

Brilliant pathetic quote from old SENCO when discussing ds's inability to sleep and what methods I had tried at a multi meeting 'have you tried telling him to go to sleep' Doh, why didn't I think of that!grin

BlackeyedSusan Thu 12-Sep-13 23:54:03

ht before he started, give us a couple of months and we will sort him out...

claw2 Fri 13-Sep-13 00:00:06

Some schools are brilliant at curing Autism don't you know!

Old senco 'his difficulties are only on paper' referring to various EP, OT, SALT, CAMHS, Feeding clinic, dx reports. Damn these experts for lying to me!

Spinkle Fri 13-Sep-13 03:08:07

My mother: pre diagnosis "there's nothing wrong with him, it's you" and "he can't be autistic, he doesn't walk around the edges of rooms" (she was a Special Needs teacher!)

Playground mum: "he's done so well (he has, it's true) he's nearly normal now"
Jesus wept.

sammythemummy Fri 13-Sep-13 08:25:32

My cousin upon telling her that my 3 yois still not having proper conversations: "Honestly Sam, you need to talk to her more" sigh

Strongecoffeeismydrug Fri 13-Sep-13 09:34:13

Old women constantly tell me he can't have autism he's too beautiful and he smiles.
Community pead told me to pray as only god can save him hmm.
Old GP said he's not got much upstairs has he hmm.
And all the usual bollocks like bet your loaded with all the DLA ect.

elliejjtiny Fri 13-Sep-13 10:04:44

Strange how some people think we're so lucky to get "free" cars, DLA etc but when they are pregnant they say "as long as its healthy" rather than "as long as its disabled so I can get free stuff".

greener2 Fri 13-Sep-13 10:25:49

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

goldenretriever Fri 13-Sep-13 18:57:19

Wow, uggerthebugger, I don't know if I would have been able to control myself.

goldenretriever Fri 13-Sep-13 18:59:40

also, a HV a few months ago said 'well at least you have the other one, she is as bright as a button' The douchebag.

ilikemysleep Fri 13-Sep-13 22:15:59

My MIL said DS didn't have autism, the only reason he wouldn't talk to her (or anyone much) was because I mollycoddled him. Then she added that she didn't like him much. He was 5.

Pixel Fri 13-Sep-13 23:16:34

"Mini-oddgirl has had a good day but seems to find it difficult to engage with his peers"...yes, that will be the autism love...

Ha ha, yes, Ds's escort solemnly informed dh that in her opinion the reason ds doesn't speak is that it's 'something to do with his autism'. Now why didn't we think of that?!

Mummyoftheyear Sat 14-Sep-13 06:05:40

Silasramsbottom, those same people are clearly saying the same to you as they are to me about my son! Lol

okthatsweird Sat 14-Sep-13 11:40:15

I was recently told by my Ds's new TA that "Asperger's isn't a life long disability" phew! thank god! I can stop worrying about his future now because when he wakes up one day he will be fine.

Dm :You just need to let Ds go out and learn for himself otherwise he will be one of those Dc who sit in their rooms doing nothing but play on their computer all day with no friends". Sooooo that's where I'm going wrong tut!

After 3 years of me telling various teachers that my Ds struggles with his organization skills and pointing out the same targets on his IEPS his new TA tells me "I have noticed that your Ds needs help with his organization skills....if you imagine when he walks through the doors in a morning he is just overloaded with things that he needs to remember?? once we tackle these difficulties I can see him being way ahead of his peers academically".....wow no, it never crossed my mind angry

Thank god they have employed this TA, she is noticing all the difficulties the out side agencies have been giving strategies for since he started at the school.

Starxx Tue 17-Sep-13 13:10:46

I added my peeved saying earlier but reading through these now I realise I have heard pretty much all of these before ... Im going to make a list using these examples and put them on my facebook status to my friends and family so that they know what NOT to say to me lol x

Cheesy123 Tue 17-Sep-13 14:27:57

Don't worry deaf people can even use computers - no shit!

Ellenora5 Tue 17-Sep-13 15:28:06

"he will reach a certain level, so that's something to be happy about"

Really, I'm fffnnn chuffed with that, a certain level, who'd have thought it eh!!!

Anychance you could enlighten me a bit more on that, what level and in doing what.

"Oh you no, what most autistics do"

I walked out

MovingForward0719 Tue 17-Sep-13 15:28:39

Fellow mum from ms school my son used to attend, asking me how he is getting on in ss. I say oh great, blah blah, working out really well, only 8 in a class etc. Fellow mum: well if they sacked all of these silly TAs, then they could afford to have 8 in a class at ms. Idiot.

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