I have 21 month old twin girls who were born at 33 weeks. One is perfect and an absolute joy and the other has special needs. The affected twin has been late meeting all her milestones and at 21 months old still isn't walking. She is at the stage were she is pulling herself up on to furniture and side stepping while holding on. She can be a very difficult child. She seems to get frustrated that she can't do things. She can be very emotional crying at the slightest thing and when you try to comfort her arching her back and going rigid. She had an MRI done which showed that she had white matter damage to her brain affecting her gross motor skills, basically mild CP. We only found this out recently, I was praying that the Dr would say her MRI was normal and that she just had development delays but obviously she didn't.
I do try to be patient and understanding with my daughter. I can't help though looking at her sister and thinking that she should be just like you, running about and climbing on furniture and causing mischief but she's not. Ironically the affected twin was the bigger twin, sailed through NICU and was sent home seemingly 'normal'. It was only when she was late at meeting her milestones that alarm bells started ringing. The smaller twin was much sicker and is hospital for longer and escaped unscathed. I don't know what went wrong and when. I feel guilty about what has happened. They are twins but one is 'different' I think it is becoming more obvious now that they are getting older. One is running around and one just sits there. People are noticing now that something isn't 'right'. I am a very private person in RL and don't want it broadcast that she has cp.
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Albaba · 05/07/2013 08:52
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