Do any of your children that become aggressive ever stop as they get older?

[Blossomhill]

Dd has become quite aggressive since her 6th birthday and I am so worried that it will get worse as gets older.
It is usually when she is having a meltdown type of tantrum and she pushes people out of her personal space.
Things did drastically change after medication but this week she seems to be doing it again.
Can children grow out of this behaviour? Is there anything I can do to help? Will the fish oils help with this?

Thanks. I really feel down at the moment about it. Like it's my fault and I am avoiding the playground incase she has done something :( Horrible, horrible feeling.

[Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads]

I was going to ask something similar, not about aggression but about being unmanageable as ds1 is just a nightmare atm. We were in school yesterday and he was the least manageable in his class. Today there were 2 of us out with him and he was still completely uncontrollable. And he's only 7. God help us.

[Blossomhill]

Huge sympathies jj as dd has probably the most challenging behaviour out of her year group in the unit. It has dramatically reduced since going on meds, so much so that when camhs went to visit they couldn't pick her out.
However this week she has been back to some of her old behaviour. School think it may have been because we have been away for weekend and she is finding it hard to go back to school routine.
Am ringing Camhs on tuesday to see if increase in medication may be to blame to.

[anniebear]

I was only thinking today that I hope Ellie calms down as she gets older. I don't know how we would cope with her hurting herself when she is older

and its not your fault at all

[Chocol8]

Hi Bloss - just wanted to say that after ds went on the same meds, his behaviour was mostly good after he started taking it, but some of the old behaviour did surface.

Generally, having lived (just) through a couple of weeks of the tantrum/meltdown behaviour I take him back to the consultant (by then it's an emergency situation) and see what they think, and sometimes change the meds.

You are not alone, and it is in NO WAY your fault - you are doing the best for your dd.
Ds's taken a nose dive yet again - he seems to go in peaks and troughs and I am waiting for it to either level itself out or continue getting worse. I know what you mean, i try desperately to avoid social situations as they stress him and me.

Give her time to settle back into the meds if she has just had an increase. It may be that you have to keep it at the level she was on prior to this one to keep her behaviour stablised.

Let us know how she gets on. x

[Blossomhill]

Thanks Choc, dd does seem quite similar to your son in many ways.

I do feel ashamed though and I know I shouldn't. Up until she was 6 we didn't have this aggressive behaviour and I used to count my lucky stars tbh. All of a sudden overnight she started to do it. School say it is her way of saying keep out of my space as she doesn't have the conversational skills to put across what she wants to.

I am ringing Camhs tomorrow to see what they suggest.

Thanks xx

[doobydoo]

Thank goodness fir this thread..ds is nearly 7 and over the past few weeks is hugely argumentative and aggressive and unco-operative.We put it down to our stress re looking for work etc and not having as much patience but it is a nightmare.I windered if it was linked to his poor eating it is a total shock and we don't know what to do.
I feel for you as it is a shock.

[dinosaure]

DS1 is still very prone to lash out - he's nearly 7 now.

[doobydoo]

He has not been diagnosed as special needs but i have to say that the change is making us wonder about how to approach it.I did not mean to muscle in on this thread.I realised when i had sent a message ..so sorry

[Blossomhill]

doobydoo - sorry to hear you are having problems. have you spoken to your ds's school?

Dinosaure - I didn't realise your son did that. It's horrible isn't it? I just worry that she will do it when she is older and that scares the hell out of me :(