I posted this here over a year ago and thought I would come back for more advice after posting on a similar thread today.
Nothing has really changed. He is in year 2 now and still has no friends (after 3 years at the school inc nursery). He is very immature for his age and has some SEN (no statement as we are not exactly sure what is wrong yet but his speech is behind and he has some motor skills issues). He also hates football which most of the other boys play and just plays by himself in the playground fairly happily but the boys seemed to take a dislike to him from the start and tease him/hit him and refuse to play with him or have him sit near them.
Socially he struggles to interact with them and I do understand the problem stems partly from him. The school have been brilliant at trying to help him socialise with games and groups he attends with the SENCO. Sadly I feel like the other kids view of him is tainted and will never change but he doesn't want to move classes and keeps plodding on. He has great relationships with the adults (teacher, TA's etc) and seems happy but I find it quite hard although I never show him that.
To be honest me and his teachers have regular conversations and try different things but nothing works. The boys who were horrible to him were told that they didn't have to play with him if they didn't want to but to leave him alone and not tease him. The problem is now he tries to approach them and they blank him and walk away. He rarely gets invited to birthday parties and is aware as the others hand out invites to everyone but him sad Even playdates are a struggle as the parents of the one boy he really likes turn us down everytime.
He is currently being assessed by a developmental paediatrician which I hope will help but there is a chance nothing will really come of it. I don't think he has aspergers as he doesn't obsess over things. He just seems like he is still about 3 yo mentally.
It is so hard and when nobody knows how to help you feel completely alone. I honestly don't know what to do to help him and feel like he is headed for a difficult life and I should be doing something more!
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Continuing issues with DS (6) - no friends after 3 years..
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