DH said before, PIL who are at our house to mind DS from 3.45-5pm, when I home, every Tuesday,have said they have a booster seat and want to know if they can drive DS to park on the days they come.
I said no. Surprised DH asks why. So I have to remind him:
- his parents are 74 and 73- DS is ASD, 6 and a runner
- they don't follow the fucking instructions I give them when they look after him here-in house and garden, can't see them following "don't let go of his hand"
- the park is not fenced in and is surrounded by roads
-FIL will shout a DS and then doesn't understand his shouting has inflamed the situation , with DS acting worse, DS reacts badly to being shouted at
-FIL always says he has meeting to get to (he's a bloody do gooder so he's on a time limit- erm yes, it really works to say to DS "come on now, we have to leave the park, we're in a rush
- I remind DH about the number of times I've arrived home in tears/ fuming because of DS's behaviour when we've been to the park after school, he's usually tired and arsey
-DS is strong and I struggle to bundle him up sometimes
-bribery/cajoling and dealing with issues has only been learned through being a full time mum/dad to minirinky and cannot be replicated by them
I could go on, and made it clear to DH, I don't think my own parents could do it now.
I really couldn't risk letting them take him out and him throwing a wobbler.
Am annoyed with DH that he didn't say no and it had to be spelled out to him why not and annoyed with PIL that they think it's an option.
Obviously we do a good job managing DS when they see him with us on trips out, but that's because we weigh up and try to forsee all problems so it doesn't go tits up.
Phew, that feels better- just got to get DH to tell them no OR I will !!!!