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claw2 Wed 24-Apr-13 13:29:50

Ds has a food phobia, very limited diet etc (and hates writing)

I just got him to write a 'shopping list' and got him to agree to come shopping and for him to do his own shop ie only the things on the list, but he pushes the trolley, put the things in etc (he hates shopping usually and its a big performance to get him to come and he wont touch the food i put in)

Now he is refusing to go, as he has to get dressed (something else he hates) but will go happily if i dont make him getted dressed and let him go in his pj's and flip flops.

Im obviously asking him to a lot of things he doesnt like all in one go. Would you let him go in pj's or make him getted dressed?

PolterGoose Wed 24-Apr-13 19:31:06

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starfishmummy Wed 24-Apr-13 19:34:20

Well done!!

GoblinGranny Wed 24-Apr-13 19:38:09

Well done both of you. Let's hope he doesn't develop a taste for black truffles and beluga. smile

ouryve Wed 24-Apr-13 19:48:59


As an aside, I've taken DS1 to school in his pyjamas in the past!

claw2 Wed 24-Apr-13 20:24:27

Goblin, luckily for me, i havent seen either in Asda, im safe grin

Ouryve, yes i have taken ds to appointments before in his pj's, literally had to pick him up put in the car and carry him!

Thanks guys, very proud of him, light at the end of the tunnel feels great

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Wed 24-Apr-13 20:28:26

What amazing progress!!

MareeyaDolores Wed 24-Apr-13 21:36:19

Nothing wrong with pj days grin

Dinkysmummy Wed 24-Apr-13 21:41:48

Wow, that is a massive a achievement!

grin he did very well and I bet you are ecstatic!

(I actually have a tear in my eye as I can feel from what you write how much of an achievement it is for your son)


I really really hope this continues and his diet improves!

And well done you


claw2 Wed 24-Apr-13 22:55:44

Everyday would be a pj day if ds had his way! But again getting dressed and leaving the house, is something else he has been making progress with. 6 months ago, that was impossible.

So leaving the house happily, even half dressed to buy food and eating it, is a huge achievement and massive progress smile

He is very tearful tonight, not sure if that is the result of a stressful day or something else. BUT he did it today, no fuss!

GoblinGranny Wed 24-Apr-13 23:05:58

We worked up to wearing pjs in the house.
Before that it was boxer shorts.
Before that....shock

StarlightMcKenzie Wed 24-Apr-13 23:17:13

Wow Claw he did amazingly (and you).

He'll probably need a day off pressure tomorrow though he can eat his new food if he wants for sure.

DS and DD don't HAVE pjs. They have whatever is comfortable to wear in bed from their drawers, usually a t-shirt and shorts/longs that they haven't worn in the day so I think we escaped that difficulty. No idea how that all happened tbh. Perhaps it was orchestrated by ds in the past.

StarlightMcKenzie Wed 24-Apr-13 23:18:34

And tbh, I can't tell what are children's pjs and what aren't in the shops anyway blush confused. I think probably looking back at the holiday photos that the matching summer t-shirt and shorts outfits were probably pjs.

claw2 Wed 24-Apr-13 23:29:52

Goblin, ds used to be a naked boy, but at the time it was quite appropriate to run around the house naked from the wasit down, as he was potty training, it did go on longer than expected, but then so did potty training!

Star, ive asked ds about why he doesnt like to wear clothes now he more verbal and able to express himself. It seems to be a temperture thing. He says he tracksuit bottoms are thicker and make him hot. He tends to get hot very quickly and red in the face.

Although he doesnt like shorts or short sleeved pj's, he wants his arms and legs covered, as this makes him feel 'safe'

claw2 Wed 24-Apr-13 23:32:02

Excuse the typos, my glasses are broken and everything is a bit blurry!

GoblinGranny Thu 25-Apr-13 07:17:49

Mine has a broken thermostat too, he's the one striding to college in the snow with a T shirt on. Fortunately we've got a selection of clothes that he is very comfortable wearing, others he finds itchy or he can't bear the fabric.
When he was at school, they accommodated his needs, he didn't have to wear the jumper and they accepted the school fleece instead when necessary.

claw2 Thu 25-Apr-13 12:30:33

Goblin, ds is a 'cold' boy too, bath has to be luke warm, food cannot be hot etc, its complicated by the fact that he wont wear short sleeves or shorts as he doesnt feel 'safe' uncovered.

He says when he wears tracksuit bottoms, they make him hot, when he gets hot, he feels sick, then feeling sick gives him a headache.

So ds was the boy in school refusing to take his school jumper off on a baking hot day, despite the fact that when he gets hot, he feels sick etc.

I need flimsy long stuff, tops dont seem to be a problem, you can get thin long sleeved tops (that are very similar to pj tops) its just the bottoms, i need to find and the only thing i have found so far is pj bottoms

GoblinGranny Thu 25-Apr-13 12:55:32

Mine liked these when he moved out of track suit bottoms

He can cope with light chinos too, but has yet to wear jeans.

claw2 Thu 25-Apr-13 13:23:27

Thanks Goblin, come to think of it, ds never seemed to have a problem with school type trousers. So chinos might be ideal, with an elasticated waisted, would be perfect.

PolterGoose Thu 25-Apr-13 13:44:25

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GoblinGranny Thu 25-Apr-13 13:56:24

They look lovely, but their XL would be way too small for my DS. smile
Other thing is having clothing made for him, I'm fortunate to have a friend who is an excellent tailor.

claw2 Thu 25-Apr-13 13:59:20

Oooooh Polter they would be perfect and they have long sleeve tops too. I have bookmarked and will certainly will be giving these a try. Bit skint at the mo, have just been ordering dictaphones, pencils, grips and such like to help ds with handwriting! But next lot of money will be spent on these smile thank you.

PolterGoose Thu 25-Apr-13 14:10:57

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claw2 Thu 25-Apr-13 14:33:32

They look ideal Polter, i will get one pair to start with to see if ds will wear them. But i will need several pairs, if he does like them, as he changes several times a day, some days, due to accidents. Its going to cost me a fortune!

PolterGoose Thu 25-Apr-13 14:41:12

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MareeyaDolores Thu 25-Apr-13 20:30:56

H&M girls section have quite plain black 'treggings' (look like trousers but feel like leggings) for £10. Would he notice??

They might not be quite thin enough, but worth a look. Travel clothing is usually soft and light too.

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