Question thrown out of the blue first thing this by DS.
Yes DS you do have autism I reply.
Thats cool said DS I thought I did because I have learnt a bit about it and it means I am smart at a lot of things doesnt it.
I paused and asked how he felt.
Its a good thing mum dont worry its really a good thing. Does my sister have autism too?
I reply she is quite a lot like you DS but doesnt have a dx of autism like you.
DS says oh she has mum because she is smart too!
DH walks downstairs obviously heard the conversation from above.
Dad I have autism and its ok you know. (I am on verge of choking tears by then)
DH says yes its ok mate.
DS says there is no one else in my class with autism Dad. DH says oh I suspect there is if you look hard enough DS and he mentioned his friend (valid dx) oh yes he said but I am different not the same.
DH explains how there is no one person with autism that is identical and everyone is different.
DS says oh I know I have a lot of autisms Dad. I did agree with him he was complex.
YES said DS I have autisms in maths, english, writing and drawing and in computers because this school has helped me and I am now smart.
Cant help thinking that life would be so much easier if everyone could look at autism in such a innocent positive way
That's lovely, my DS says he has autism about dinosaurs and keeps insisting his brother has autism about fish (he doesn't) but he's happy and we're happy with that. You and your DH seem to have handled the conversation brilliantly!
Can we come by in the summer and meet him and he can tell ds that he has autism?
I just spoke to someone today who has a child with autism going into adult services and she said 'It's been a horrible journey and I did it for love of my son but I just can't get over how much I LIKE him as a person and a young adult'.
Star by all means pop down I can assure you he will have a chilled out american "youtube" style explanation which will end with "and its all as cool as dude" lol
The only time we talked about it was in the car a few days after our london dx trip where he wanted to know why we were there. But once I mentioned the AS word he said no way! its got Ass in the front of it and I am sure to get into trouble for that! cue refusal to discuss further other than the odd hint from us and thought from him that he finds somethings "not good" Twelve months on (10th) he suddenly comes out with this. I really think he has been mulling it over in his head this long. Being understood not just at home but at school has also boosted his self esteem. He made it worse and had me blubbering in the loo (my hidy place when caught on the hop) when he thanked me for helping him find a school that "liked" him. All on the same day was too much lol.
When dds hamster died it was a whole year or more before we had a sudden outburst about how upset he was for poor hamster and poor DD at the time he had said awesome can I look at the dead body
I am glad that its all cool with DS that is what matters most. Its certainly all cool with us