ds2 is 14 , from the age of 11 his behaviour got difficult to manage , massive meltdowns everytime he didnt get his own way . in the end diagnosed with AS . the only AS like behaviour i can see is that he is controlling and gets far too into one particular hobby .
I think that alot of the problems ive had with him have been more low self esteem and teenage than AS . he has been manipulative , lies , aggressive (have called police ) etc and have had some good advice from maryz on the teen board .
the current problem is that he is mad into bmx bike riding . there is a bmx track in the park not far from where i live and hes been meeting friends there to ride . he has only recently seemed to get into a proper circle of friends and being part of a group and liked is as addictive to him as the bike riding now appears to be . They dont stay at the track all the time and i have told ds2 where he is allowed to ride , given him the boundaries in our small town . I did this trying to give him some freedom but really i just wish i had my eyes on him all the time . hes already gone where he isnt allowed twice .
I think sooner or later hes going to be up to no good . he loves to be the clown , the cool one etc and one of his friends has already been smoking . i dont feel confident that he will make the right choices even tho he assures me he will!
Thing is , he is just obessed with it . he wants to be out ALL the time . He causes a big stress when he has to go somewhere else, doesnt want to go and ruins it anyway and then he is moaning to get back home to go back out .
ive tried limiting it to a few hours but then he can see no reason why for example he cant go out again after tea and the kick off and the moaning is worse . I feel uncomfortable allowing him to be out from morning till night , i cant even stop him going where hes not supposed to can i .
i know hes a teen and i have to let him go a bit but while hes out im worried and its the sheer obsessiveness of being out the whole time thats doing my head in .
if i let him out whenever he wants , he sort of then thinks thats his right and being out will become the norm .its very hard to back track with him . once i let him do something its very hard to change it .
i dont know if anyone understands this , my mum has just made out like i am crazy , that i should just let him go and get on with what i want to do and i cant explain why i am stressing so much .
i am feeling horrible at the moment anyway and intend to go to the doctors for antidepressants .
am i just going crazy . hes 14
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thriftychic · 04/04/2013 12:20
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