My Dt2 was diagnosed a year ago with aspergers at aged 10. Although under a paed for many years due to attention and processing difficulties he was not a typical Asd case although I always saw traits.
He is a twin and shared twins friends in primary school, although he was popular. He is now at a different secondary school to dt1 and he is having a friend over this Friday, the first arrangement that he has done himself, ie invite, sharing phone numbers etc.
He is a bit anxious about it all, talking about what dt1 will do when friend is there etc . He has started to talk about being worried that he will bore friend. He hasn't the ability to banter in a free and easy way as nt kids do and has spoken about being worried that he will only have " minecraft" ( computer building game) to talk about and he says " I can't talk about funny things that happen to people at home like other boys" , ie the normal stories that nt kids share.
I have always thought his ability to think about how others perceive him, to be the opposite of what I would have thought would be present in someone with Asd . He also is worried that dt1 will make fun of his friend, presumably because of the fact that he is dt2's friend . Dt1 does make fun of Dt2 sometimes but in a typical brotherly way and would not be nasty to a friend of dt2.
Dt2 is generally a very considerate child who always seems to care about how we all feel and is always asking are we ok.
I go with my gut feelings that have been there for years , ie Asd traits but sometimes I come across traits that seem fundamental to a diagnosis and I see the opposite in dt2 and it gets me thinking
Anybody with a dc that really seems to care what is thought of them and others intensely with an Asd diagnosis?
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