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Consequences for DC with PDA, and handling a current crisis

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HotheadPaisan Fri 08-Mar-13 19:21:34

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PolterGoose Fri 08-Mar-13 22:01:16

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HotheadPaisan Fri 08-Mar-13 22:11:26

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Walter4 Fri 08-Mar-13 22:35:25

Maybe they do have to change tack Hothead ,but it might give you're son a break and them time to think about how their way is not working.... If school is making him worse at the moment perhaps give him time to break the cycle and build reserves to cope with it, hopefully with them changing too?
If only they could all really really get it, or just trust us parents for gods sake!!
Off to bed now...have a peaceful night X

PolterGoose Fri 08-Mar-13 22:38:12

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popgoestheweezel Fri 08-Mar-13 23:56:23

Consequences are terrible here too. We only use time out when we need space ourselves not really as a consequence for ds.
It sounds like you're having a very tough time, although not found yiur other thresd yet, and i know how horribly draining it really is. we have had two unexpectedly calm days today and yesterday, not quite sure why as there could be lots of reasons but I have been giving him Bach flower remedies for a few days- maybe a coincidence or maybe not- dunno.
When ds is in a negative zone there is often almost nothing that helps at all and im sure you use all the pda techniques already but from what poltergeist says maybe school haven't? i have been going over all this old ground since school have suddenly got on board and are asking me what they should be doing and actually ive found it a useful refresher course myself as i had definitely lost sight of some useful techniques.

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Mar-13 06:54:15

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Badvoc Sat 09-Mar-13 07:10:39

How old is he?
Testosterone surge?

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Mar-13 07:23:46

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Badvoc Sat 09-Mar-13 07:28:08

Does he have 1:1?

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Mar-13 07:39:31

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Badvoc Sat 09-Mar-13 07:46:40

No cover for unstructured times?
What more info do they need!!

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Mar-13 07:53:02

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Badvoc Sat 09-Mar-13 07:56:18

Is he going to continue at school until the panel decides?

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Mar-13 07:58:12

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shaftedbyschool Sat 09-Mar-13 07:58:54

Sympathies - have had to go through similar with a school who wanted everyone to behave the same with the same sanctions applied e.g all children will follow instructions and pay attention in class. They didn't want someone like my ds upsetting the applecart. After part-time timetable and a spell in PRU staff provoked him leading to a meltdown and permanent exclusion.
Schools have to want to be flexible and sadly too many aren't resulting in consequences for our dc's. All they see is the behaviour and not what causes it.
You really need to get school on board and to be as understanding as possible or things will get worse sad.

Badvoc Sat 09-Mar-13 08:01:40

Can you do the break thing?

shaftedbyschool Sat 09-Mar-13 08:04:15

Also the right TA/1:1 is crucial. We had staff with very little training but thought they were experts iykwim. They in effect were actually causing a lot of the anxiety by their actions but just couldn't see it. Yes, he had full time support but it was the wrong type of support. Have had copies of records showing that his 1:1 thought he was choosing behaviours and so she was insisting on him doing things which were actually making things worse sad

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Mar-13 08:10:31

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Badvoc Sat 09-Mar-13 08:18:28

It's very positive that he likes his 1-2-1 and teacher.
Something to work with at least.
I can really empathise wrt crap TAs.
Until schools start actually employing trained staff then this is going to happen more and more...
In my sons case, a TA that could spell and use grammar would have been nice!
His current TA is truly dire.
I am not even sure she has any quals at all!

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Mar-13 08:20:17

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Badvoc Sat 09-Mar-13 08:21:54

Is really insidious once it starts.

ilikemysleep Sat 09-Mar-13 08:32:34

Is he in mainstream? Maybe the environment is just too much. Too many people, too much noise and movement. Is a move to asc ss out of the question? We have seen a few pda-type children who have settled immensely in the quieter less stimulating environment of ss. I think this is a very tricky situation for school as well as yourselves. They have to handle upset parents whose dc have been hurt if your dc is being violent, and to those parents a quick 'sorry' doesn't always satisfy them. Which is not your concern but raises school's stress on how long they can sustain things and manage all those relationships. I am sorry things are so bad at present and hope there is a positive change soon.

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Mar-13 08:42:51

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Badvoc Sat 09-Mar-13 08:45:07

Well I don't have PDA and I would freak out if someone trapped me in a small room and told me I couldn't leave!
What are they thinking!?
Are you hoping the LA agree to the SS?

HotheadPaisan Sat 09-Mar-13 08:46:46

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